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Love Quotes - Can You Rebuild Trust After an Affair?
September 21, 2010
Love Quotes - How to Rebuild Trust After an Affair
In This Issue:
1. Love Quote of the Week 2 Relationship Survey Results 3. Can You Rebuild Trust After an Affair?
Love Quote of the Week
Integrity is not a conditional word. It doesn't blow in the wind or change with the weather. It is your inner image of yourself, and if you look in there and see a man (or woman) who will not cheat, then you know you never will.
~ John McDonald
Love Quote in Action
This is what your partner needs to know to trust you or to regain your trust after an affair: that you are a man or woman who will not cheat ever again. (To learn if you can rebuild love and trust if you have cheated or are the injured partner, read the article below.)
Practice integrity in your relationships with others. If you are in a monogamous relationship, then act like it. Be a role model of integrity for others.
If you are a person who needs a lot of attention from others, watch your tendency to flirt. Flirting can lead to an emotional affair which can lead to the real thing and devastate the person who loves you most.
Keep reading for the feature article: Can You Rebuild Trust After an Affair?
But first ...
Relationship Survey Results
I want to thank everyone who participated in my relationship survey. According to you, infidelity is your number one problem or fear. For those who have qualified for a no-cost coaching call, I will be contacting you shortly. Some medical issues in my family have prevented me from contacting you sooner and I apologize for that.
For those who still want to participate, you can still take the relationship survey. By doing so you are eligible for a 30 minute coaching call with me.
Since I want you to know that I am listening to what you want from me, in response to the survey results, I am building a new section of the Love Quotes site that I will be announcing soon.
For those of you who are struggling with these issues now, make sure to read this article:
Can You Rebuild Love & Trust After an Affair?
If your spouse says they no longer love you, and you feel more like enemies than friends, what chance is there for turning the relationship around and restoring the love? (The love may NOT really be dead... more on how that's possible in a second.)
What if your spouse walked away?
Can you persuade them to return, even after you poured your heart into it? The answer is yes (but the techniques, even though extremely effective and powerful, are not as conventional as you might think. In fact, you may be a little apprehensive about trying them.)
But what do you really have to lose?
If you are brave enough to implement the "last- chance" efforts I am about to reveal from my friend and colleague Frank Gunzburg, PhD, it is possible, even though not guaranteed, that you can enhance your success by tapping into marriage-saving methods that may be completely new and more effective than anything you've previously tried.
This is important... let me explain.
Dr. Frank Gunzburg just released new strategies designed specifically for crisis couples who feel vulnerable, helpless and desperate to save their marriages. (Even couples where only ONE spouse wants to save the marriage.)
These are seemingly hopeless marriages where one spouse either walked away, or recently revealed they no longer loved the other.
If I am describing your marriage, then please read on because you are NOT at all alone. Here's why.
I've known about Dr. Gunzburg's remarkable success for almost 3 years, and one thing his organization does well is research. Recently they performed a survey on a total of 1285 troubled marriages, and the findings were heart- breaking.
To give you a picture of the group, 93% are still married, the average age is between 35-55, and 75% of the couples have been married longer than 11 years.
The unfortunate discovery was that only 5% of the couples rated their marriage as happy.
* 49% rated their marriage as unhappy - but unwilling to divorce...
* 31% rated their marriage as critical - they are currently separated...
* 15% rated their marriage as desperate - the divorce papers are filed.
Over 41% of the Couples are Separated.
Even though 30% of the audience stated that both individuals in the marriage are equally committed to saving the marriage, a disappointing 60% said their spouse cares little for the relationship, while they are desperate to save it.
Is the love really gone when one spouse wants out?
Here's where Dr. Gunzburg's findings become intriguing...
According to Dr. Gunzburg, after working with couples in crisis for over 35 years, when your spouse says they no longer love you, that doesn't always mean the love is dead. It may simply mean the love has been covered up by anger, frustration, resentment or other emotions.
Typically, this occurs because of an affair or years of neglect.
To justify these feelings, your spouse may even start rewriting history to match this feeling that the love has died. He or she might say things like, "I never really loved you," "I married you out of a sense of obligation," or, "I was afraid you would fall apart if I left."
As difficult as this situation may be, hope isn't lost because:
If you were once in love, you CAN fall in love again.
There are three specific steps you can take starting RIGHT NOW to revive the loving feelings that once flourished in your marriage. These are not gimmicks, tricks or clever little psychological games.
These strategies were born after 35 years of counseling crisis couples. Couples who first came into Dr. Gunzburg's office acting more like enemies than friends were later transformed into lovers, best friends and soul mates.
These couples didn't get their relationship back to where it was before the love evaporated. They learned how to make their relationship better than ever.
If you know your marriage needs serious "medicine" to cure the ills you are faced with, please use this link to read about the 3 skills designed to rebuild the love.
Use this link to turn your marriage around and rebuild the love
After you use the link, scroll 1/3 of the way down to read through the 3 skills crisis couples need to follow.
These skills are designed to be followed in sequence.
In fact, throughout the program Dr. Gunzburg uses examples and stories of couples in crisis that will help you relate these principles to your day-to-day life.
When you use this link, you'll read excerpts from these stories For example:
Martha and Todd. Todd was blown away when Martha dropped the "D" word. He didn't even know what to say. He never dreamed things had gotten this bad between them. Unfortunately he hadn't heard Martha's repeated pleas for connection and communication. Now he faces losing his wife of 28 years.
Rachel and Clarence. Rachel was sitting on the sofa. Her face was pale, and she was unable to speak. She felt like she was spinning. Part of her wanted to cry, but somehow she was too overwhelmed for the tears to come. She just sat listening to Clarence as she felt her world falling apart all around her. Clarence just confessed to his affair. Discover the steps they took to save their marriage from divorce and restore the love, even after the affair.
Use this link to:
One other important note:
After you read about his program, I strongly recommend you invest in it. In fact, the first 100 people who order today will have access to a special bonus.
Use this link and scroll to the bottom and read about the special Rebuild the Love Training audio he's offering JUST for my readers.
The first 100 people who order his newly released program before tomorrow will get access to this training audio as a special bonus.
Remember, when your spouse says they no longer love you, that doesn't mean the love is dead. It may simply mean the love is covered over by their "anger and resentment."
You have a chance to win your spouse back and begin again. Use this link to learn how to do it.
Laura Ramirez Inspirational Love Quotes & Relationship Advice
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