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Making Lasting Changes in 2006
January 03, 2006

Making Lasting Changes in 2006

Feature Article:

How to Create Lasting Change in Your Life

by Laura Ramirez

“Forget the resolutions. Forget control and discipline ... too much work. Instead try experimenting. Go in search of something to fall in love with...something about yourself, your career, your spouse, [your child].” Dale Dauten

New Year's Resolutions. Every year people make and break them. Rather than approaching life as though you can transform yourself overnight, understand that change requires engaging in a process. Since it requires making different choices than you've been making up to this point, you can start this process anytime—you do not have to wait for the the stroke of minute on December 31 to create lasting change.

Rather than creating a series of New Year's resolutions in four different areas of your life as some motivational speakers recommend, pick one significant thing in your life you want to work on. What one thing is most important to you? Look deep into your heart to find the answer. Perhaps you want to spend more time with your children. Perhaps you want to reduce your debt or lose some weight. Maybe you want to learn to be less reactive. Implicit in all of these goals is the idea that change is part of a process because each of them uses words like "more" or "less."

Make sure your goal is meaningful and is based in love, then write it down in your own hand (don't type it). For instance, "I choose to eat more fresh vegetables and fruits because I love my body, want to increase my health and reduce my weight." Place this piece of paper where old habits can be changed by making new choices—like on the fridge or on the dashboard of your car if you tend to eat at fast food joints. Read this piece of paper every time you open the fridge or get in your car to inspire you to keep making this new choice.

Rather than defining an absolute goal, like weighing 125, which may be a setup for disappointment, you are embarking on a process of discovery which includes eating more fresh vegetables and fruits. As you allow yourself to discover a new way of being in the world and the consequences of acting in this way, you open yourself to making increasingly healthier choices and as part of the process, losing weight. Change is possible for everyone, but you must make the choice in each new moment.

You can do the same thing with reducing debt or choosing to spend more time or be less reactive with your kids. (For an in-depth discussion of the difference between reactive and responsive parenting and how to become a more responsive parent, read my book,

Keepers of the Children: Native American Wisdom and Parenting

It's a great tool for changing negative family dynamics and choosing to make parenting a path of personal growth and a loving adventure for every member of your family. If you don't have kids, it will help you gain insight into your childhood, so you can transcend it.

Be sure to write me and tell me how my simple system works for you and your family.

Happy 2006!

Laura Ramirez

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Best wishes for happy holidays and a healthy, joyous and prosperous 2006.

Yours truly,

Laura Ramirez

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