Biracial Relationship

by Anna
(New York)

Biracial Relationship

Hello my name is Anna, I am 23 years old. I am from Poland as well as all of my family. We are the first generation to come to the states.

Almost 4 years ago, I met my boyfriend Brandon. Ever since then, my life has been hell. When I told my parents that I was dating a black man, that was the beginning of the end for me. Everybody in my immediate family instantly disowned me and gave me no hello for 3 years.

During the past 3 years, my boyfriend and I went through a lot, almost too much to handle. I have stuck with him through everything because I honestly feel like our souls are connected. My family's acceptance is so important to me, but I can't hello who I truly love and care about.

My family doesn't like my boyfriend for the following reasons: he's black, he has a criminal history, and he does not have a college education. All of these things make him look bad, but he is not a dead beat guy, he has always had a job, always worked full time and did everything he possibly could to support me.

I feel like he didn't get the opportunity to grow up away from crime. He was in and out of homes for most of his childhood/adolescence. I recently moved back to my parents' house because we were running low on money with no support from anyone, I decided to go back home. The only way I was allowed back was to lie and tell my parents, sister and brother that I broke up with him.

I thought that separation would make me realize that he's not the one for me, but I can't lie to myself when I know that he is. I love him to death and don't want to be with anyone else. I have not seen him in over two months, and it's torture to know that he's right there, and I cannot see him.

I feel like my parents do not treat me as an adult and do not respect my decisions. I have so much built-up anger for everyone being against us. I walk around depressed all day and it is hard to have motivation for anything dealing with this. I am asking for your advice on what I should do. If I want to go back to him, I will lose my family again for good. Please help!

Sincerely,
Anna