Boyfriend has a Girlfriend

My Boyfriend Has a Girlfriend

I've been seeing this guy for about three months. He's one of the most amazing people I've ever met. We get along amazingly well. It almost seems silly to try to explain it like this. I've never connected with someone so well and he feels the same way.

The problem, of course, is that he has a girlfriend of six years. He tells me often that I'm the one he wants and all of that, but he has yet to do anything about it.

I know that situation is very involved, so I try to be patient. I care about him so much, so I try to give him a break, but on nights that he is with her, I go absolutely insane.

I have so many reservations about this. Will his family hate me? Will he miss her and regret us? Is this simply morally wrong, even though I feel so incredibly strongly about him?

I don't know, I don't know, I don't know. Any input would be so greatly appreciated. This is beginning to consume my life, which I do not particularly like because I am also terrified of the day when he tells me that he doesn't want to see me anymore after I've waited for him for so long. Thank you!

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Nov 17, 2009
I also need advice
by: Anonymous

My boyfriend also has had a girlfriend for almost three years. Before we started our relationship I already knew that he had a girlfriend. I tried to forget him and move on, but my feelings for him are still there.

I don't know what's wrong with me because I still believe that he will leave his girlfriend for me. They are staying in one house. He is letting me go and move on but still I choose to stay because I think I cannot leave without him.

So, our communication is still continuing when he is not with her .I am still confused. I know what is the right thing for me to do, but I cannot do it because I'm in love with him.

Nov 07, 2009
Don't Fool Yourself
by: Anonymous

Ask yourself these questions: are you worth it, should you come second? He will not leave his girlfriend.

I been in a relationship for six years myself. I know what's up. I've also been the other woman. He just plays with you when things aren't going right at home. Three months isn't a long time to know somebody, it's always good at first.

Oct 30, 2009
Don't Let Anyone Play with Your Emotions
by: Penny

You are sensing what's going to happen. He has a lot of years with her and no matter what he's telling you, he will not leave her to be with you.

If you could/would just put your emotions aside, you would see that you're his mistress/outside woman. He's not leaving the woman who he has built a home and lifestyle with for six years.

I'm very sorry to write this as I know it will hurt, but you can stop it now before it goes any further. It's your heart. Don't let anyone play with your emotions.

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