Clean Break

by Christy
(US)


My boyfriend and I have been going through a tough time. Yet neither of us seemed to be able to make a clean break. Then one night he started going on and on about how he needs to live alone. I went home and packed. Then he was angry at me for packing my stuff and saying I was going to move out.


I've not left yet cause I can't get into a house until the first of the month. We broke up Jan. 9.
Anyway, he is constantly asking me where I'm going, if I'm coming home. And he constantly brings up all the past hurts. I told him I'd be willing to try one more time after a day we spent talking calmly about our feelings. He said "NO."

Once he said he loves me more than a friend, but not enough to continue this. Then he says he didn't say that. Then he says he can never get his feelings back for me. Then he says he's not sure if he can.

He sat crying for hours....and I cry for hours. But he insists this is for the best. And he might be right. But I think both our hearts are breaking. He thinks he should be able to stay in contact with me when I leave. I told him he can't. Cause I have to make a clean break. He wants to know where I'm going to live.
I'm confused as to what he wants!

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Jan 25, 2010
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Break Clean
by: Penny

A clean break is always best and I know it will hurt both of you. Maybe when you two run across each other in the future, you will understand that it was for the best. Break clean!

Jan 25, 2010
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He doesn't know
by: Anonymous

I don't believe he knows what he wants. To break away is good, time heals all wounds, and makes the heart grow fonder, we have all heard this before.

If it's really meant to be, you will find each other again.
I do believe that you should stay in some sort of contact, so you can have a healthy closure.

However, I wouldn't let him know where you are living. Because his behavior is not healthy from what you are describing. You never know when someone will snap, so just make safe boundaries for yourself.

Kindness is always best though; it makes it more difficult for someone to harm you in any way when you are kind.

Be safe and God bless.

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