Confused in Love

by randy
(sacramento)

Confused in Love


I am 56 years old. I am currently going through a divorce that should have happened 4 years ago. I returned to my birth town and accidentally ran into my ex-buddy's wife who I always got along extremely well with.

She told me she was going through a divorce. That her husband had become violently abusive and mistreated her badly for the last 5 years. I have been about 500 miles away and have not talked to them in all this time. I consider talking to him but our friendship ended poorly 5 years ago.

She and I have always been comfortable with each other and hit it off amazingly well. They have been apart over a year. I find happiness with her I thought I would never find again. Problem is her 23 year old daughter told me that I was cheating on her dad and honestly shocked me.

We had talked about this 6 months ago and at that time her mom and I were just good friends. Now it is way, way, way more than that.

My heart tells me it's fine. He and I were not really friends anymore and they were already divorcing as I was. Am I doing something wrong here? I care about the daughter also. I have known her and her parents for over 15 years. Any feedback would be appreciated.

The woman told me she now loves me and I feel the same. This is not a rebound relationship. We both have been very careful and have hung out a lot over the last 6-7 months.

Confused


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Mar 25, 2010
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Confused In Love
by: Penny

Don't think about her daughter. This is between you and her mother.

Mar 24, 2010
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by: Anonymous

The daughter still lives with her and the father has been doing meth since I knew him. He's in pretty bad shape now. I would like to help him. I've tried before. And that was before he abused her, which I can't be ok with.

Mar 24, 2010
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by: Anonymous

Her 23 year old daughter will be on her own soon, if she is not already. If you abide by the decision of the 23 year old, her mother will end up alone, and so will you. And the daughter will have her own life.

Therefore, find a way to make this work, if both you and her mother want that. In years to come, the daughter might mature a little, and might even be happy for the two of you.


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