confused long distance relationship

by Sonia
(India)

Hi Laura,

I'm from India. I'm currently very confused with my life. I have been in a long distance relationship with this man for 3 years now and we were supposed to get married but due to misunderstanding between both our families, our marriage was cancelled.

I'm still seeing this guy without my parent's knowledge. Once or twice in a year he comes to visit me and we spend time together. He wants me to get married without informing my parents and previously we did have some fights where he linked me up with my best friend and abused me as well as he did abuse my parents which simply exhibited the negativity in his character.

But as he apologized later I couldn't but only forgive him and give him another chance. But his behavior is very temperamental.

Meanwhile I have started liking my colleague who cares a lot for me and he said that he is in love with me. I like his presence and sometimes we talk for hours even after office. My colleague is a married guy with a kid and he did say that he also loves his wife and kid.

So am i in love with this married guy and what should I do as I still love my boyfriend. Please give me a solution.