Confused Love

Confused Love


I was married for 15 years and now have been separated for 4 years. My question is this: my soon-to-be ex has had countless relationships that have all failed. I have had none other than a casual date.

Every time my ex ends a relationship she calls and comes over and tells me how unhappy she is and that she misses me and our home. I possess the home. When she is in a relationship she doesn't give me the time of day, in fact she won't even return my calls.

I have always maintained our home and my heart for her but it's confuses me so much. She has even stayed the weekend and we slept in separate rooms. We did some of the things we used to do and she told me she hasn't laughed and had fun in a long time and that she misses my company, then she abruptly leaves and I don't hear from her in a long time.

I have tried to be respectful and a friend. Please advise, Mike

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Apr 27, 2010
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by: Anonymous

Thank you Cher,

I did set up an appointment to get counseling. We will see where that leads. Mike

Apr 27, 2010
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Battered and Bruise Emotionally!
by: Cher

Hi There!

Not sure that I can tell you something that probably hasn't already crossed your mind. Your ex is taking advantage of you and that's because you let her.

She knows that it's a comfort zone so every time there is a need for comfort, she is there. Now what you know is this..it's time to change the lock and a take a trip to a shrink etc. You need to love yourself and put yourself first.

Work on that self esteem and seriously think of getting lawyer to know your rights and what's legally yours.

Some lucky gal out there is waiting for someone like you...why would you deny her that opportunity?

Out with the old in with the new, you can do it! In other words, you need to move on.

Apr 25, 2010
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thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you Penny, I knew this already but I have had a difficult time letting go. My self esteem is battered and bruised. I didn't want to turn my back on her as she always lets me know everyone else hates her, and I'm the only one who should and don't...Again thanks, Mike.

Apr 25, 2010
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Confused Love
by: Penny

I really, really hate to be the one to enlighten you.

Can't you understand and see it's only when your x is down and out that she comes to you to make her feel better and than off she goes again?

You're not confused just in love. When you are ready emotionally and mentally please step away from her, otherwise, just as you have been you'll continual to be...someone she can dump her emotional trash on.





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