you should have told him! I had a best friend (guy) and i felt like i was starting to fall for hi.. I took my friend's advice and told him! And it turned out that he felt the same way :) but he never thought of telling me! Whenever u love someone u should tell him or u will regret it.
Sep 23, 2011 Rating
i love my best friend by: An-gHelL
My best friend is the best thing that's ever happened to me. I'll love him forever.. I don't care who knows it. I love how he texts me nonstop.I love the way he jealous. I love how he says the sweetest things. I love how he is so perfectly imperfect. Even if were just best friend im happy to have him ... i dont want trash our friendship just because i love him ...and he knows what i feel for him.. but we don't talk about my feelings cause he don't want to. Being friends w/ the one you love is the happiest thing.
Jul 15, 2011 Rating
It is really hard by: Anonymous
I'm in the same situation. I met my best guy friend when I was ten. We were of different nationalities, but we just became best friends since the day we met. We helped each other through difficult situations, told each other of happy things and our dreams, and did all sorts of fun things together. I was starting to fall in love with him, but I didn't tell him because I was too afraid and I thought he didn't love me the same way I did. Then, finally, without telling him I loved him, I left the school and went to a... different school. We kept in touch with him on Facebook, and I just want to tell him that I love everything that he does like crazy, but I can't. He seems to be affectionate towards me, like a best friend would be, but nothing more, nothing less. And I would give anything to just see him again, and to be with him. The pain is so immense that I'm not sure I'm myself anymore.
May 24, 2011 Rating
very nice by: Anonymous
That was beautifully said. I am experiencing the same thing, I hope it does not destroy me. Best of luck.
Apr 12, 2011 Rating
i'm that girl by: Anonymous
I am in the same position but im that girl you were when when you were 12.
Apr 06, 2011 Rating
im in love with my best guy friend by: Anonymous
i really like my best friend (hes a guy) but he's always telling me about how he has a girlfriend and when i build up the nerve to ask him he always either makes me mad or says he is going out with someone and starts talking about her!
it gets me really mad! but now im going out with another guy i like and today my other good friend told me my crush was going to ask me out until he saw me with my boyfriend....and now i hate myself!
Mar 25, 2011 Rating
Love, just finds ways to get back at ya... by: Anonymous
I met my best guy friend when we were 4, we've been best friends ever since...We admited everything to each other...He even used to help me with my guy problems..Then he got a girlfriend. She was a close friend of mine too..I was happy at first, but then I just started getting jealous and sad..Soon she dumped him for another guy...He was heartbroken at I helped him through it...He says he's still looking for a girlfriend but I'm afraid to tell him of my feelings as I'm scared he'll just love me as a sister....He even offered to go to prom with me as we're both practically dateless...But he just hides his feelings so well, when he doesnt want anyone to know...
So technically, Im just to scared to admit..And he is looking for another girlfriend..
Mar 04, 2011 Rating
i know what youre going through by: Anonymous
i know what youre going through. i was in love with my best guy friend from we met when i was 5 until probably around a year ago. (my parents and his parents are also best friends) He knew though. he knew me so well that after a while it became obvious and then everyone found out and it just got awkward.
but he stayed my best friend even if he didnt feel the same way. even i tried to act happy at times. but id get jealous when hed start dating other girls in high school. not proud of this but when hed fight with his gf in high school (or broke up with a girl) id be happy with the thought that he might be single soon (or is single again)
i spent my life wanting to be with him knowing he didnt feel the same. then about a year he started dating a girl who is perfect. and when i saw that, my feelings slowly started to fade. when they got in a fight last summer, i realized instead of being happy, i wanted them to work it out because he really did seem happy with her and more than anything i want him to be happy, so instead i gave him tips on how to fix things with her.
they just celebrated their 1 year anniversary since their first date. and im happier than ever, in love with someone else. it took 16 years to move on, but eventually youll find the right guy. if its meant to be with your friend, itll happen. if not, give it time, someone better will come along.
people told me for years to move on from this guy, for my own good. but i never understood how it could be good for me to move on from a guy who seemed so perfect. but they were right. and it wasnt until i set my mind on moving on, that i actually did.
Feb 26, 2011 Rating
i just wish we could be together by: kaysha
I have fallen for my guy best friend. He is actually really easy to fall for. He's funny, considerate, nicest guy I know, and good looking. He has no idea I like him. I'm to scared to tell him with fear he might think its weird and we aren't friends anymore. He is way to important to me for me to lose just because I like him. I want to tell him in case he does like me back but if he doesn't it could ruin our friendship. I just... I don't know what to do. :/ I'm torn.
Feb 10, 2011 Rating
love sucks by: Daniela
Im only in love with my best friend but the only reason i love him is because he told me first that he loved me but he had a girlfriend that he would talk about nonstop.
now i love him but hes so happy with his girlfriend and even says he ll marry her and he always tells me and it just breaks my heart. We are both going to graduate in May and ill probably end our friendship since i just cant take it anymore but for now ill just enjoy the few months we will see each other since i know he ll completely forget about me after we graduate.
Feb 01, 2011 Rating
Move On by: Anonymous
I am a bit older, and my best guy friend and I have known each other for over 10 years. We have been intimate, but not recently. He sees women here and there, and I am coming to the decision that we should part ways, maturely. So that I dont have to feel upset every time he goes off with another woman. Hes a womanizer anyhow, I guess our friendship just kind of stuck. Yes, Ill miss a lot of things about what we have, but I have to let him go and be with other people, find the person that he can settle down with. After 10 plus years, if we haven't already, I realize it will never happen. If men don't know what they want, its their problem, and its time for me to move on.
Jan 30, 2011 Rating
I am there too by: chelsea
Dear Danielle, I know what your going through. I am there right now. I am in love with my guy friend. He knows this. I told him,when he first found out,he was wayy happy. He wasn't sure if he felt the same though. I didn't understand it but i went with it anyway. Oh well. He has told me he hates me,like me,wants me,needs me,loves being my friend,but he has never once told me that he loved me. I didnt expect him too either. I just wanted a chance,a shot with the most gorgeous,athletic,amazing,sweetest guy i knew. I never got out,and im not so sure i ever will. But we are still friends,so listen to me,even though you may not want to,you have to take a chance,or you will never get what you want or need in life. Just the rules of the road.(: Good luck to me,you,and everyone out there!!!!
Jan 27, 2011 Rating
Someone Who Understands by: Jamie
Hi Danielle. I'm 15 years old and I know exactly what you're talking about. I've been best friends with this guy since we were in 1st grade. We did EVERYTHING together. People wished they could have a friendship like ours. All I ever thought about, all I ever wanted to do, was to be with him. Except now, we're acquaintances. 2 years ago, I just couldn't take it anymore. He began blowing me off to hang out with other people, he wouldn't text me unless i texted him (he eventually just stopped texting me), his girlfriends kept coming between us, and stopped caring for me. So one day, I just told him I can't be friends with him anymore (which was very hard to do, considering how much I loved him). So, he started to act like my best friend, just because it was all about to end, and silly me, I believed him. After a week, I realized it was just an act, and then our friendship really ended. Since then, I've missed him even more. Last year, he texted me saying I miss you, and i texted him i miss you too. We had this great conversation, I was just so happy we were communicating. Then, he told me he was gay. At that moment, my heart sank and tears filled my eyes. I was like oh, good for you. Since he was gay and there was no point in hiding it anymore, I told him that I used to love him (even though I still did). Then, he told me, that he used to love me too. My world was instantaneously turned upside down, and I cried like I've never cried before. After loving him, for all those years (which continues to this day)... wasted. I wish I could go back in time, and re-do it, but i can't. I see him in school, and talk to him sometimes, but it's just not the same (it's actually pretty awkward). So that's my story. If I have learned anything from this experience, it's to never let him go. You still have a chance, even though it might not seem like it. And even if things don't work out the way you want it to, you will still get to be with him, and that's all that matters. I wish I had better advice, but I'm still figuring out things myself. It was nice to read your story, and I hope my story could help. Sincerely, Jamie.
Jan 08, 2011 Rating
I hope... by: Anonymous
I am also in love with my best friend but this is just the beginning. It wasn't always this way. I'm 15 and pretty much in the same situation you were. I really hope this turns out well for me. Your story broke my heart for you. I'm crying as I type this response. I'm so sorry for you but, I hope my situation with Brian turns out better than what your story left me thinking. Oh, I feel so terrible...
Dec 29, 2010 Rating
killing me softly by: ELIGGUURRL
I'm madly in love with my best friend and he doesnt know. he ALWAYS talks about this girl that hes SO IN LOVE WITH and i have to listen. and its AWFUL. so i told him last night and he said "if i didnt like her i would like you." i dunno what to think should i feel happy, sad, right now i feel kinda like his little back up plan. i just know we are supposed to be together and ive been waiting a year for him to realize that...maybe god has different plans for me..i dunno i just want him to realize he belongs with me. and everyone who commented..i totally feel for you because men make women go through shit. i hope you all find the man of your dreams. ~Jenna
Dec 23, 2010 Rating
i feel the same way by: xoflirt
ive been in the same position you have been for 7 years. ive been in love with my best guy friend for 7 years and he still doesn't know. he treats me like his sister and tells me all the time "ohhh dude look at her" "isnt she hot!" and i have to deal with it. ive seen both of us go in and out of relationships. i know deep down he should be with me but hes not and its just getting worse we get closer and closer as friends everyday and im hoping the love grows too. don't feel bad. i know how you feel all too well.
Dec 03, 2010 Rating
i found the love of my life within my bestfriend . by: Anonymous
We had been best friends for 2 years , I never would have imagined we would be falling for each other little by little. It just seemed unreal. I had my boyfriends he had his girlfriends it never came to my mind that he'd be the guy I fell in love with . We hung out one day and we kissed, the next day I let out all my feelings to him and he said he felt the exact same way. Now were together and I've never been so happy in my life, ever. I love him so much he's my best friend forever, the love of my life, my everything ! Yes. Were still young I'm 16 he's 18, but love doesn't have an age. I honestly am truly in love. This is real, I know it :-)
Nov 13, 2010 Rating
Please Read! by: Chelsea
Hey Danielle, I don't know you but we have the same story! It killed me because my best friend could not see how in love I was with him. I would and still would do anything for that boy and I hate it that he goes out with girls that don't truly see how awesome he is. It finally got to the point that I couldn't hide it anymore. I told him like 3 weeks ago. It was the best thing I ever done. I knew that our friendship was strong enough that even if he doesn't feel the same we could still be best friends. So I got him alone and just poured my heart out to him. He told me He wished I had told him earlier. Even though we arn't going out we are still best friends and I feel so much better just knowing I got it out there. He can take it or leave it. I still have hope that it could happen but Im not as stuck on it anymore cause I know I have done all i could do to make it happen. It's his choice now. You just have to trust your friendship enough to know it would never change anything and that he wont treat you different or be weirded out. I love him so much and I have never been as honest as I am with him. He knows everything about me and me him. You have to tell him Danielle if he really means that much to you. you have NO idea how much better you feel. What can you lose. You said you haven't spoken or seen each other in 3 years. Just tell him before he gets married and it's to late. You gotta take a chance. Don't be afraid of getting hurt. Your hurting yourself already by keeping it all inside. Yes i still get sad sometimes because me and Elijah aren't together but at least I know he knows and he sill loves me and doesn't think i'm weird and at least i got it all so maybe someday it will happen but if it doesn't i can still move on cause I made sure he knew. The worst pain a heart can ever know is the sorrow of regret when you don't let your feelings show. Good Luck to you and God Bless! Just pray about it and let God lead you. If it's meant to be it will happen but maybe you need to make the first step. Don't think to much about it or you'll always talk yourself out you just have to speak from your heart. just let him know everything and your feeling. If he truly is your best friend and your relationship is that strong he will understand and respect you even if he doesn't feel the same. You would not believe how much better i feel after Telling my best friend how much i care for him and my true feeling for him.
Oct 05, 2010 Rating
Loving him by: Sexy Gal
I know exactly how you feel except sometimes you have to take a chance with things. I have been friends with my guy friend for 3 years and I just told him how I feel and surprisingly he feels for me in kind of the same way. He can't be with me right now due to the fact we dont want to rush anything but I hope we will be, good luck to all of you with simialar situations. :)
Jul 27, 2010 Rating
I too share your story by: Melissa Marie
You took the words right out of my mouth also. Except my story had a very sad ending. I loved my best friend who I also met when I was 5. we loved each other, we dated on and off for years but he told me one day not to be jealous now, because in the end it will always be me. But sadly, he passed away 5 years ago =(. My "What if's" will never be answered. Ive been in love with 3 of my best guy friends. the second one became an asshole and married white trash and became a father (DNA tests pending) and my other best guy friend is now gay, sometimes I think, "If my best friend wont love me, who will?"
Jul 17, 2010 Rating
Same by: Anonymous
I get in a way what you feel. I have so much mixed emotions. I love my best guy friend so much. I keep on giving him hints and everything like that. He is super duper sweet. I have know idea what to say to him about my feelings. Im not sure if i want to. He looks so happy with his girlfriend. I got this whole facade going on trying to cover my emotions. Im not sure how it will last.
So the i hope my hints get to this guy. I love him. I wish you the best. :)
Jun 01, 2010 Rating
Really feel for you guys :( by: Anonymous
Everyone who has commented on this page, I really feel for you. I have trained myself to block those kind of feelings for really close guy friends. I've been doing it for so long now that I now feel heartless. You guys are lucky to still be able to love. One quote comes to my head with your stories."Be yourself because life is too short to be someone else" all of you are acting out as though those feelings don't exist. These stories are great but just like every story, it has to have an ending and I know none of you want to live the rest of your lives thinking 'What if...?'please go to your best friends and tell them exactly how you feel and make sure that you ask them to promise that nothing will change between you whatever they decide before you lose them forever. good luck to all of you.
May 16, 2010 Rating
I know what you mean by: Anonymous
You have taken the words straight out of my mouth. Unlike your story, I've only known my best guy friend for about a year, but it feels like it's been forever. He says he loves me as a sister and it breaks my heart because I love him so much more than that.
He knows I like him but he told me we'd never be together. I've tried to move on from him but I can't. He is the first guy I've ever loved. I'm so glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.
Apr 30, 2010 Rating
Please read this by: sonam
You must go tell that guy everything because you are made for him. Trust me, it will work...may God bless you.
Apr 27, 2010 Rating
Same here by: Anonymous
I know how you feel which really sucks. I am IN love with my guy friend, I told him I liked him which really shocked him. He was sweet about it even though he told me he just saw me as his very good friend and nothing more. Just hurting me even more.
Yet, when you see them giving looking at you in a certain way it just makes your heart beat faster and your blood pump faster. He doesn't know I'm in love with him, just like you I'm an actress hiding my real emotions. It really does hurt, but I wish he could realize that I am in love with him.
Feb 03, 2010 Rating
That story is like me by: Amy .
I've been friends with him since we're 5 and now I told him just before, but he just said this "I love you but as a sister."
I'm just confused and sad.
Jan 18, 2010 Rating
Love my best friend by: Gemma
I'm in love with my best friend too. I've only known him two years but it's like we've known each other all our lives. He treats me so nice like you would your best friend. We go everywhere together.
Every weekend he has a fight with his girlfriend over me. She tells him that he treats me more like a girlfriend than he does her.
Dec 26, 2009 Rating
Fallen in Love by: Anonymous
I've fallen in love once in my life and the guy doesn't know and probably never will. Unlike you though, I fell in love within a few weeks of meeting him. We got to know each other extremely quickly, talking for hours at a time at every opportunity. It was amazing how much we had in common, and it was the first time I felt like someone really understood me.
He liked me, even I admitted that, but somehow that interest went away, as far as I know. I decided to try to "just be friends", but I didn't do a very good job at acting. We talked less and less. It was like I was trying to give him space, thinking that's what guys want, but instead we just became like strangers. I spent a year in painful confusion and frustration with myself, crying almost every night. I spent another year "getting over him", which would have been a lot easier if I hadn't seen him looking sad every once in a while. I didn't think it was because of me, but I wanted to be there for him.
I did get an almost ending; I'll be seeing him only once a year, and this last time he seemed really happy. He came up to me and hugged me and we talked almost the way we used to. During the conversation, he mentioned he had a girlfriend. I'd expected that, though. When it was time to leave, he made a point of saying goodbye and hugging me again. Somehow this is enough for me to feel happy. I have my friend back.
Nov 15, 2009 Rating
Love by: abhi
You took the words right out of my heart. Everything that you've written I have been through because that's exactly what he did to me. I'm in love with my best guy friend too. He knows and even though it hurts for me to see him love another girl, I still supported him. I even went with him to propose to a girl a few months ago, but I couldn't watch him on his knees proposing to another girl so I left.
Even after that incident, I still loved him. I found out that the girl rejected him and it hurt me more not because he didn't love me but because he didn't get the love he wanted.
He's in Canada now studying at the university. One month ago, we chatted on webcam and he told me that he likes another girl...I still supported him like I always do.
Oct 31, 2009 Rating
In Love with Guy Friend by: Anonymous
I'm in love with my guy friend too. It's like I keep waiting for him to realize, but he won't. So I'm here, waiting. The pathetic thing is I think that I will always be here, waiting for him. I have never felt so strongly for anyone the way I feel for him. I couldn't imagine my life without him and because of that, I have to live with this.
Sep 18, 2009 Rating
Love with Guy Friend by: Anonymous
I'm in love with my best guy friend. We are teenagers and he's socially slow, so when I flirt with him, he never gets it :( and more than that, I hang out with him and everything he says...every word, every movement makes me love him more and more each day. His name is Owen. He's amazing, but he'll never see that I look at him and think "he's all i want to be with." He won't ever understand.
I'm sorry for you-I really am. I know how it feels :(
