Fight Over Little Things

by betsy dockery
(chatsworth ga.)

Me and my hubby are good, but sometimes we fight over little things. He says I do things I really don't do and we argue over little things, even sex. We were fighting about not using a condom for the first time and now I don't know what to say wen he gets mad at me for no reason.


Why would a guy say he loves you, but have doubts? Is it wrong to love someone and have doubts about them and is it wrong to tell them something and yet mean something else?

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Mar 27, 2009
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by: Spiritually-Minded

Psychologists say that there is an unknown part of us that others can see that we are not aware of. Take what he says as constructive criticism. Look closely at yourself and be sure that you aren't doing what he says you are. Learn not to react to everything he says when he says them. Choose your battles.

The Bible says a soft answer turns away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.(Proverbs15:1) We need to be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath. (James1:19) Its ok to take time out and let each other calm down and to sit down and talk later. Don't just let things go but make sure you are both calm before you address your problems. At no time is it alright to lie about your feelings, we must tell the truth, and we must be willing to handle the truth when it is told to us.

Make sure you both talk about what it is you want, both now and in the future. As emotional beings our feelings change from 1 minute to the next and we are obligated to let each other know when they do. Tell him if he doesn't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything he might regret and have to apologize for later. Also, that he must talk to you and treat you with the same respect that he wants for himself.
Try to get him to open about what is really bothering him.

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