I'm kind of in the same situation as you, but it's slightly different. I fell in love with a guy who is dating my best friend. They've been together for over a year now and are clearly not breaking up. My best friend was like my sister. We were always there for each other. Except when it came to my feelings for the boy. I've been through quite a lot with this whole situation, so I have some advice for you.
If Tori is your true friend, I honestly don't think she would have gotten so upset over the fact that he liked you. I think it's something she should have accepted. Also, if you can't get this guy out of your head, girl, you're in love. I think you should go for him. But don't chase him too long, if the ending is clear to you.
Don't get yourself hurt. I've been there, and it's not fun. Even if things don't exactly work out between you and this guy, you shouldn't be upset that it's over, be happy because it happened. And who knows, maybe you'll find another best friend from being with this guy. Maybe Tori wasn't your best friend after all. I hope everything works out:)
Oct 11, 2009 Rating
Friend or Boyfriend? by: Anonymous
Wow... I'm going through almost the same exact thing, but what I have learned is that if the girl is truly your best friend, she will understand your feelings. However, you must also do something in return. No guy is worth the trouble. It's better to stick with your best friend (if she's a true friend).
I would never lose my best friend over a guy. A friend who has understood my feelings. It's important to agree that keeping your friendship is important.
And even thought it hurts try to get over it and be friends with him, if he's the one who is flirting and refuses to change, then you have to change. It's very hard, no lie, but friends always come first. Hope this helped some.
Jun 15, 2009 Rating
My thoughts as they flow... by: Anonymously Revealed
Wow... There are many words that excited me right now, but the general idea is that I loved it even though it's depressing. Probably because I've been through it before. Feeling as though many guys were out of my league, and the girls were superior in a sense, hurts.
I'm older now and sometimes feel the same way, but I have learned to roll with the punches and to go for the guy I want. I guess it works sometimes...others...I'm just a silly ole school girl whose always stuck in "friend zone".
