Friends Lovers Relationship Question and Answer with Laura LoveFriends Lovers Relationship Question and Answer with Laura Love ...Friends Lovers Relationship Question: Can a Friendship Turn into a Love Relationship? Below is a question from one of our web visitors: Dear Laura Love: A few months ago around October, I asked one of my best friends to be my boyfriend. He said yes and we began hanging out at the college we both go to. He has given me a ride countless times when I need it, but now I think there is something wrong. He is so self-centered and lots of times when we see each other in the halls he wont even look at me, and most of the time he won't even be seen with me unless more of his friends are around. I have come to him and have tried to be around him but he kinda just shrugs off my attention. I have even given him space. I just want to know why he is ignoring me. Have any ideas? Signed, Friends Lovers Relationship Answer: Dear Marie, The friends-lovers relationship is not always a good idea. Although it seems logical that a friend who cares for you could make a loving, romantic partner, this is often not the case. Although there have been stories of longtime friends realizing that they are soul mates, the element that is usually missing in a friendship is a strong physical attraction—something that is usually felt within minutes or days of meeting someone. The fact that your newly appointed boyfriend is avoiding you probably means that he prefers being a friend, rather than a lover. By acting out his feelings rather than telling you, he probably thinks that he won't have to hurt you, but his behavior is hurting you just the same. If he truly is your best friend, then he will summon the courage to tell the truth. Prepare yourself to hear what is causing his behavior and then ask him straight out: Do you want to be my boyfriend or would you feel more comfortable if we went back to being friends? Remember that people sometimes act out what they don't have the courage to put into words. Hope this helps. 
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