Get Back with Girlfriend

by Tricky12321

Get Back with Girlfriend

My ex-girlfriend and I are both around 16 and were in a relationship for about a month or so, we got along really well and saw each other as much as we could fit in, about two or three times a week even though we have both been really under preasure from exams which have been going on at the same time. She was even planning to do something nice for my 16th birthday which is next week, I was her first ever relationship and I think kiss as well and we were going really well and I was so sure that I was making her very happy I could just tell. I was never too much or clingy as I know that is unattractive but she even told me she loved the way I cared for her and she made it clear she liked me a lot. She used to say she was not used to the attention she got, for instance massaging the back of her leg or neck or even simple things like holding a door open for her but she said she liked it and that it was nice. I saw her on thursday to study together and we were just normal and on our break she kissed me and then after told me she loved me and burried her head in my chest but then a few days later called me and told me that she didnt want a relationship, so I met up with her and we had a talk and she started crying and was saying she did not want a commitment and she was not ready to have a boyfriend and wont be for a long time. I asked her if she liked me anymore and she said that she wouldn't answer until I persisted and she said she was closing the possibilities of liking me away. I don't see how someones feelings towards me can change from so strong to breaking it up in such a short period of time. I don't know if this is just an overload of stress from exams and its all just happened at the wrong time, it was also very public because we were seen to be the "cutest and best couple" and no-one would leave her alone about it which may not have been good because she has always been a little bit quiet but liked where as i'm really popular and out going.

Recently I have been reading up on intuitive strategies and decided it would be best to give it space for a period of time unless she contacts me first which she has done. If she does, I would just be cool and friendly like before we started going out and won't hold any grudges like I have read not to do. I just don't know what steps to make for recontact in the next few weeks. I am going to tell her that she doesn't have to worry about prom because I'm going with someone else to play on the "you want what you can't have" sort of thing.

In a month or so we are both going to the same party and everyone is saying that is the night where im going to get back with her, this is mainly coming from her friends (who are also my friends from before we went out).

Do u suggest that we have a "friends" meet up before and just have a nice time together as like an ice breaker. I'm probably waffling a lot now but I am being as rational and calm as possible and I am quiet confident that I could have her back because you can tell when someone likes you a lot and when even her closest friends found out they were shocked and were like "But he made her so happy!!" apparantly.

I would really really appreciate if you told me the most suitable steps to get back with girlfriend, like applying the techniques.


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Jun 04, 2010
by: Lena

I am very sorry to tell you this, but I have the same situation you do. You think that someone likes you a lot and you ask that person out, but then they say that you've changed and that they liked the old you. Sometimes they just start to like other people. And now, I am going to have to be very honest with you.

Sometimes it's better to be friends than boyfriend and girlfriend. I know this from five years of a relationship with a guy who I thought I loved but, all of a sudden, he just broke up with me.

It is a hard thing to deal with, but sometimes you just need to let go and stay friends and maybe one day, you will be together again.

If you do get back good luck

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