Get My Wife Back
I am trying to get my wife back.
Well here we go ... my wife is more the dominant type and I'm the more relaxed but from the start of our marriage my wife and I type were in honeymoon mode until the company I work for filed for bankruptcy and that's where it all began.
She told me, "I married you because I felt secure and that you had a good job, but she brushed it off her shoulders then said, "Sorry if I made you feel bad. It's not important, but try to get a job and I don't care where...so I started working and everything fell into place, but she always had a way of making me feel bad. When we argue, she will always say, "I regret marrying you. If I knew that marriage would be about ups and downs, I would have not done it."
Seconds later, she will feel bad and apologize for those words and then say, "I know I will never will find a man like you ... she prayed for a man that loved God over anything and that will love her truly and that he can cook...voila, it was me. I love to cook and I do it because I love doing it.
I am a very compassionate type of guy. If she has a bad day, I hug her and sing a song and dance with her on a slow jam (Tony Bennett style of music).
What boiled the cup was that I was very depressed due to the fact that I had lost my first job. I was making big money and after losing that job, I felt less of a man, but on top of that she always puts me down in some way.
She had some good reasons but she overdid it with verbal damage. After 5 years she decided to call a quits...yes, we go to church and no, I don't believe in divorce. she goes by emotion and the counselor told her, "I don't see any reason for a divorce, you're trying to see your father in him. ...your husband was never raised up by his father but I will to help so with 3 to 4 months of therapy he will be in good shape. So what about you? Are you willing to go through a session?"
She said "No, I want out."
It's been 5 months. Lasst month I decided to be strong because she call me for everything: my computer broke, I need help or my cell is freezing ... but I was talking to a female friend of mine and she told me, "Jay, how can you make her find her true feeling if you always pick up the phone ... she needs to miss you. So one day she called and I told her, "Don't call me no more and when there is any mail correspondence, call me.
It's been 2 weeks. She hasn't called but the thing is she knows me very well and she's very secure about the fact that I love her and I will go back if she ask so that's why I decided to be strong and told her not to call me for dumb stuff ...it was the first time I put on character and did it without no harsh way.
It's been 5 months I still want to get my wife back, but what should I do? I don't call her nor text. I leave that up to her to do first... what do you recommend?
Before I forget, every time we went threw an argument, she kicked me out of the house. That was 3 times in five years. She always makes divorce threats. Please write back. God Bless. Saving Your Marriage