He told me "I Love You"

by Starr
(Georgia)

I was with this guy for 3 years and he has cheated and I took him back. After we broke up, he was seeing a younger female. Out of the blue he comes to me and says, "I Love You and I want to be with you."


But since we have been apart, he has lied to me, telling me he has not been with her. I do know that they have not had sex or made love. He told me that he couldn't because his heart is with me.

I am so confused. Is he just wanting me back for the sex? He tells me he only wants to be with me. Do I ask her if it is over with them and believe that he loves me and only me?

He knows that I love him and that I have not been with anyone. What do I do?

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Jun 21, 2009
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moving on
by: nikki

As hard as it is te deal with, my advice to you would be to let him go. I have been with the same man for six years and he has cheated, lied, been more deceitful than I can even explain. However, he loves me and that is what has kept me holding on, hoping that he will change.

Believe in yourself and realize that you deserve better, we all do. Love only goes so far,and remember.....life goes on, time heals all pain.

Jun 19, 2009
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He's not worth it !!!
by: Liz

Once you catch them lying, that's it. It is very easy for anybody to say I love you, but it is another thing to show it. My ex would tell me 20 times a day that he loved me. But the when the real tests would come up, he failed miserably.

It took me
a long time to get rid of him, but finally, I did.
Men know when they can play with you, and if you let them you are in big trouble!

Maybe you should not contact him for a while. Do not be available. Let him really miss you and really prove to you that he loves you.

It worked for me. I dumped him anyway, but it might work for you. Do not let him play with you anymore.

Jun 17, 2009
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It is about you!
by: Anonymous

Hello,

Been there done that! You have to ask yourself Do I deserve better? Am I worthy of better? Women set the pace of a relationship and men will treat us the way we allow them to treat us. Know that you are a special woman and he is lucky to have you. There is a man out there that will treat you like a LADY. You will always wonder about the other woman. Take a stand and get what you want in a man.

Jun 17, 2009
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leave him
by: Anonymous

Ditch him...he isn't worth it...if all he wants is that but his heart keeps straying, leave him. Don't give him another thought unless he comes crawling back on his knees and begs for forgiveness and proves that he has changed. Don't take him back. There will be others much better than him!

Jun 17, 2009
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Use Your Head Dear
by: christinteachespoetry@cox.net

You have all the evidence to make a wise decision but you insist on glossing over it. He has
shown you he is not trustworthy. Forget him and move on. It easy for him to tell you he loves
you but he does not show it. He even denies what
you know to be true. Follow your head here, not your broken heart.

Jun 17, 2009
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Take it easy
by: Lia

How has he been with you during those 3 years?
You may be able to forgive him this time and start from the fact that he wants to be with you.
Give him a chance and avoid further possible disappointment by creating some distance at the beginning
to see if his behaviour improves.

Jun 17, 2009
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LiIFE Starts with YOU
by: Anonymous

Starr,

You said yourself that he has lied to you, please do NOT believe that he has not been with this other girl, HE HAS! Do whatever you have to do to get this man OUT of your life! You deserve better!
The sooner he is GONE, the sooner you can start your life! Start your life, Starr! You can do it.

Jun 17, 2009
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Been there-done that!
by: Anonymous

This is just my personal experience and opinion: I too am in a relationship similar to yours and have been for 17 years. I was actually married to the man for 15 of those years and he too told me the same exact thing but I found out--later of course--that yes, he may have just kept in touch with her and the sex stopped but as soon as one little snag in our relationship came along he ran right back to her.

I feel like I've been sharing him all this time and not by choice! I have recently found that I no longer need to be in this type of relationship--I still love him, but I've learned to love and respect myself more! Good luck to you and I pray for you that in your case he's being truthful.

Jun 16, 2009
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Wake - Up
by: Penny

Starr,
He has cheated and lied, yet you are willing to believe him when he says he has not been to bed with this young lady because his heart is with you? Many years ago there was a record out called "find a fool bump his head" and this is what this guy is doing to your head. Don't let him keep bumping your head, wake up; Honey! His heart and other parts of him are not with you.

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