Heart Broken..(twice)..

by Debbie
(American Samoa)


Hey! Laura I've been with my man for just 2 months now and already our relationship is a total mess. I caught him with another girl in bed, caught them again only not in bed this time, but just talking. First time I caught him, I left and he came running after me naked trying to stop me. He said he made a mistake and that he wants to be with me, he wants to work things out. Okay! So everything went fine for at least two weeks,

until one day we were having lunch, talking and having a great time, when he happened to tell me, Honey I need to tell you something ... Okay this is bad! He said do u remember the time me and you broke up for two days, well on my way home I met this high school girl, we talked and I took her home and we had sex. Laura, why did he tell me that he slept with somebody else? Believe it or not I'm still with him. Can you help me? Does he want me, love me or just like me?

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Nov 12, 2008
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Twice Thrice and More
by: Anonymous

Debbie i know you love him. Those are his ways, if you hang on to that relationship, Be prepared to be a shock absorber.He will do it again. He has only heart broken you twice, but thrice is yet to come and more and more and more...Heart breaks. Gal, life is too short to live with heart breaks forever. Amen

Nov 12, 2008
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That other woman
by: Star

To believe that he is honest by that confession is a lie. If he truly loved you, why would he have his eyes on a school girl and go as far as having sex.

The brain between his legs will not settle until he gets another of the kind. Run for your life dear, the bastard is playing games with your heart. If you are willing to continue know that you will always be that other woman in his life. I repeat THAT OTHER WOMAN! The choice is yours. FOREWARNED FOREARMED.

Nov 12, 2008
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leave him
by: cindy

Hey girl, my advice to you - leave that bastard. He's sleeping with anyone ... school girl, that's bull, some men don't know what is love and you can love them any way they want to be loved, but they don't get enough, so girl one day you will find someone who's going to love and appreciate you so wait ... One day a man will come so leave that stupid guy alone. And you're beautiful so be yourself, be happy, enjoy life, don't let your life to be controlled by someone else.

Nov 11, 2008
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just read
by: Anonymous

Are you seriously asking for advise?
you already know the answer, I'm sure...
Nuff said!

Nov 11, 2008
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Heart broken twice in two months?...
by: Steve

Hi

There's an expression that goes something like this: fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me!

Basically, this is not a healthy relationship: he cheats on you, and you let him!

I urge you to end this relationship now - it will be good for you both. He will learn that there are consequences to behaving badly, and you will learn that you will not tolerate this kind of behaviour. I mean, would you let your best female friend put up with this from her boyfriend? I don't think so.

This is a great opportunity for you (and he) to grow - take it!

Nov 11, 2008
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Just Read
by: Anonymous

Debbie. This can be very painful. Every time that he does something it will hurt you. And if you want to be hurt repeatedly then you can stay with him but if you're tired of being hurt then you should leave him.

If you can't trust him being alone for more than 2 days or less then you shouldn't trust him or believe him when he tells you that he wants to be with you. If he wanted to be with you he wouldn't be going behind your back.

The only good thing about the talking part was that he didn't keep it a secret from you. He told you that he had sex with that girl. He didn't lie. Does that make it right? No, but just think about that. I personally think you should not have to deal with that pain.

You are probably a beautiful woman and you deserve better than him. Just a note: Don't ever sink to his level just to make yourself feel better. It's bad for you and could be bad for other future relationships. Good luck hun. :)

Nov 11, 2008
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Heart to Heart
by: Gabrielle Moore

I would say leave his ass because if he did it one time without the proper consequences, he is going to think he can do it again because you allowed him to. He knows that he can basically do whatever because he thinks you aren't going anywhere.

So drop him - you can do better. Be with someone who knows what they have when they have you. They shouldn't wait till after something happens to know they want to be with you they should always know that.

Gabrielle Moore
Olentangy High School Junior =)

Nov 11, 2008
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DUMP HIM FAST
by: Anonymous

I'm a man and I would dump this guy as fast as I could. Who knows how many women or girls he has slept with, what is he having a high school girl in bed for? If he's over 18, he should be locked up for rape!

You sure can't trust him, so why let him toy with you that way. Do you have a place to stay or money ... there's some reason he wants you to stay with him while he is sleeping with everyone else and he doesn't even care enough about you because he might something home from one of the others he's been sleeping with.

Get rid of him as fast as you can. I sure would not be his toy.

Feb 01, 2008
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Response to Heart Broken Twice
by: Anonymous

This guy's creed is "Love the One You're With." In other words, when you're out of sight, you're out of mind and so are any of the promises he's made. Sleeping with him means that you are exposing yourself to all the females he's slept with.

Don't be concerned with whether he wants, likes or loves you. He doesn't treat you right. He has no sense of fidelity and therefore, should not be entrusted with your heart. You've been heart broken twice, don't give him a chance to make it thrice. I guarantee that if you let him, he'll break your heart again.

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