I don't want to care but I do

by Arianna
(Margate, FL)

My ex and I have been broken up for a year now because he told me he wasn't "attracted" to me any more. We used to work at the same place, where I got him hired. However not even a month later he starts going out with our supervisor and then six months down the line after we broke up, I got "fired" -- the reason is still news to me.

I have learned to forgive him and learn from our mistakes but just haven't gotten the urge to start dating again. He recently broke up with his girlfriend and he called me to apologize about the break up and that she was more of a lust thing. He told me what went wrong and that she would never be me.

I want to just tell him tough luck and act as though I don't care, but I do. I honestly don't want to but my heart feels for him.

Is ok that I feel that way and that I still care for him? I don't know what to do/think? Sorry I kinda ran off the subject its more detailed and theres' a whole lot more than what I'm telling you, I'm just trying to summarize as much as I can.

Please help.

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Nov 25, 2008
Is It Okay to Have Feelings for Someone?
by: Laura Love

Yes, it is okay to have feelings for someone, even though this person hurt you. Although a relationship may have ended badly, you must have had some good times or you would have not been together. What you are yearning for are the good qualities and good times that you miss.

It is possible that this man has learned his lesson, is truly sorry and has changed. If you want to explore your feelings for him, then you will need to risk trusting him with your feelings again. You can do this a little bit at a time.

There's a great resource called The Magic of Making Up that will show you step-by-step how to get past your hurt and see your relationship from a big perspective, so you can determine what really went wrong. The book gives you guidelines for getting back together in a way that renews your love for and interest in one another. Essentially, it teaches you how to repair your relationship and start anew.

If you are considering getting back together with this man, I recommend you read the book and follow the instructions in it. It will also give you some great tools for creating a strong, healthy, loving relationship.

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