My advice is move on like he did. Try to do something useful or go out with your best friends. Kristina, I have been in your position before, but the guy lied to me and told me that he likes me too.
I have to move on because he simply does not deserve me. Good luck:)
Jan 06, 2010 Rating
Same Situation by: kristina martinez
I have almost the same situation, except that I went out with him 3 times already and still haven't gotten over him. Now he is trying to get with this other girl and it really hurts me all the time. I thought maybe if I did something different, he would come back to me but I ran out of things to do...sometimes I feel like trying to make him feel like he makes me feel, but it would probably hurt me even more.
I was obsessed with a guy for one year straight. Every chance I could, I would stalk him in some way.
Just give yourself a break, and look for someone else. He isn't worth your time. Trust me. He doesn't deserve you.
May 29, 2009 Rating
Move on by: Anonymous
I would move on because I've been in your position.
May 04, 2009 Rating
I know exactly where you're coming from. by: Anonymous
I am in a very similar situation myself. Sometimes I think I'm an idiot too, but you have to realize, we can't control who we have feelings for.
I've liked this boy for about 4 months. About a month ago, he got a girlfriend. Two weeks into that relationship, he finally told ME that he liked me, but that he couldn't anymore because he has a girlfriend. That statement alone drove me crazy. I mean, who tells someone that they 'can't' like them anymore?
Anyways, now, a month later, I still have the strongest feelings for him. But there is nothing I can do, because he seems happy with this girl.
Easily, she's much prettier, and skinnier than me. That is the only thing that I can come up with to explain why he's with her and not me. I won't give up on him, and you shouldn't either. If it's really not meant to be, time really does heal everything.
Apr 27, 2009 Rating
Keep Doing What You're Doing by: Anonymous
HEY. guess what. im just random girl here, reading everyone's advice; thinking, man, it's either this or this or that or that. But I think you're different from them, because you actually had the courage to say to that boy that you liked him, and then still live with the fact that he said he didn't like you back and then still talk to him every night, so you don't need major help. You just need to keep doing what you're doing.
Then one night, what you're waiting for might happen. You just need to time it right.
Mar 18, 2009 Rating
You are not an idiot...... by: Latza
I'm going through something similar to what you're going through. It's hard to know that you love someone and they don't love you back the same. The only thing I can tell you is to fight for your love and just be yourself. Hopefully, when he realizes what kind of person you are and how much you love him, it's won't be too late. And loving someone with all your heart is not being an IDIOT, it's called "TRUE LOVE."
Mar 18, 2009 Rating
If you love something, let it go by: James
It can be difficult to live with unrequited love. If it is still impossible to think of him as a friend, I think it would be healthy to find other ways of spending your time.
It's dangerous to hold a single person responsible for all your happiness and joy. I'm sure you can find it within yourself to move on, or if you can, keep him as a friend.
Mar 18, 2009 Rating
Love is Life by: Mi amor(malaysia)
Hi friend,
First of all, you are not an idiot.. I was in your shoes 2 years ago. I did love a man dearly and when you love a person, you can't even describe it..I was hoping and hoping for him to come and call me and tell me that he still loves me, but it was impossible since he never cared.
Actually it's not that we are not attractive or not pretty. I think we are not the woman that his heart wants to claim, but believe me, one goes and ten will come.
Now I'm quietly happy even though not entirely recovered, but at least I have some admirers who really do care for me.
So take my advice someone will come and you will never know. Good luck to you.
Mar 18, 2009 Rating
Love Yourself by: Anonymous
If he cannot recognize how special and loyal you are, that's his loss. I've been in your same position with a guy that knew. I loved him and he used to flaunt other girls in front of me. Yet he took advantage of my love by leading me on and getting what he wanted from me.
This was when I was 15 and now I'm 34 and now I have his 15 year old son, who he does nothing for. Now my son has to hurt sometime and go without because I waited and hoped and compromised myself for someone that never loved me.
Let go. I don't know if you know the Lord, but if you hold out, God will send you that one that you are made for. The one that responds back to the love you give him. Do not short change yourself waiting for someone to realize you are special. It's his loss. Please take this advice from someone that had to learn the hard way.
Mar 17, 2009 Rating
you're a hopless romantic by: Anonymous
You're no idiot. You're just a hopeless romantic, which is way worse. Don't feel bad--I've been where you are before. For a long year, I held out hope for this guy even though he told me he wanted to be just friends. He went into the Navy and I still couldn't let go. Not too long after that, I found out he was newly married and had a baby. A dagger right through my heart.
I didn't have a choice but to let go. Oh, I was crushed. Sometime after that, I met a wonderful guy. we've been together for almost a year. so my advice to you is: let it go. It will be hard but you'll find someone who really loves you.
Mar 17, 2009 Rating
keep strong by: Anonymous
Deal with that now: accept he never was going out with anyone.
Keep strong...don't lose HOPE.
Mar 17, 2009 Rating
you're an idiot by: pablo
you're an idiot... get a clue...
Mar 17, 2009 Rating
Friendships are precious too by: Anonymous
Unfortunately we can't make someone love us. Put it where it belongs and accept it. Let it go with prayers. Appreciate your friendship, for those are very precious too.
Mar 16, 2009 Rating
Get Out While You Can by: Anonymous
Hi my name is Jessie in my opinion you should get out while you can because if he has a girlfriend he is just a player he may not be the right guy for you .
Mar 16, 2009 Rating
Patience & Prayer by: Anonymous
Good things come to those that wait, so they say. But the best way to handle is is by praying for Guidance. If roadblocks pop up, take notice. Pray even more. If they continue to pop up, then you know he is telling you something you may not want to hear. To fall in love with someone is human, but not always what is best for us. I see no idiot here.
