is he over me ?

by Christine
(Canada)

I dated this guy for 8 months, he told me he loved me and i didnt want to say it if i didnt feel it, so i waited until i was ready. When the moment came i said it and when i said it i meant it! as the relationship progressed i was happy. i accepted his flaws and i respected him for who he was as a person. I knew that he suffered greatly from depression but i was okay with that. He dumped me because our senior year of high school started to get very hectic. So he ended it with me. then he asked me not to "forget him". then we started seeing each other again because we missed each other, but he ended it again. for 3 months he keeps coming back and then leaving. We stopped talking for 1 month and then he came back again, asking me where we stood in a relationship and doing all the things he used to do when we were dating. Then i found out that he was telling our friends different stories for why he broke up with me. Then he saw that i was becoming distant because i figure im single, i want to stay open minded and meet new people even though i still love him. Now i hear that hes been talking about me to our friends saying im clingy, annoying, and i follow him around and that im not over him, when hes the one who keeps coming back to me. I just dont want to get my hopes up if hes just going to start ignoring me again so i keep my distance. is he over me? jealous? immature? i just dont know what to do and how to react and ive been told to get over him but every time i try he always comes back . i just cant seem to get over him no matter how hard i try, i really love him and im okay with not being with him i just want him to be happy and he doesnt seem happy.

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Aug 13, 2009
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Remember...
by: Samantha

Remember that you are a strong and independent woman and you don't deserve to be hurt over and over again. I know it may be hard to do but you have to move on and find a guy who is worthy enough for you.

Remind yourself of all the pain he put you through and that will help you to get over him. Don't try to get over all at once because it will just hurt you.

He doesn't deserve a woman like you. You are beautiful in every way and you just need to believe that you are for yourself.

I had the same problem with my ex. I was absolute head over heels in love with him and I forgave him over and over again.

It didn't hurt him. He doesn't feel the pain, you do! You just have to believe that you don't deserve to be hurt like this.

If you take him back, he's just going to do the same stuff all over again. Go out and find a guy who cares about you and won't hurt you! You need to be strong and just move on and forget about him.

Aug 06, 2009
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He's not worth it
by: Anonymous

I was in the same position as you...but the only way is to move on. Every time he comes back to you, just tell him straight up that you're not into the little kid's game, so when he's ready to have a real relationship to let you know, but for now you need time for myself.

If he really loves you he will come back. If not then it's not meant to be, girl. So keep your head up high and always think positive, okay, because there are other guys out there who would treat you like you deserve to be treated, okay? Take care.

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Jul 20, 2009
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Think Twice (He's not over you)
by: pipsy

To be in love is not easy. It is a big commitment.

Jul 18, 2009
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Kick Him to the Curb
by: Anonymous

Any guy who says things like that is stupid and not worth it. Kick him to the curb. Sometimes things aren't what they seem. Like him, just say goodbye and go kiss some more frogs.

Jul 18, 2009
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let go
by: tetz

Let go and move on. This man doesn't deserve your love anyway. He keeps coming back to you because he knows that you're always there for him without hesitation. I think he doesn't know what he really wants in his life and is just using you.

I hope you can move on with your life now without him. As you said, you're happy even without him on your side, so you go girl! Be happy without him.

Be strong and have faith in God...

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Jul 14, 2009
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Trust the Lord
by: Anonymous

Life is short, so make use of the time that you are alive. The Lord promises us that He has plans for us and the plans He has for us are good and not evil.

You know clearly that this guy is not good for you, so move on. It will be hard at the beginning but it will be worth it.

You do not want to spend the rest of your life with a man who does not know how much you are worth. Trust me, I am speaking from experience, it will get worse not better. Trust in the Lord and he will give you your heart's desires.

Jul 14, 2009
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Learn to love yourself
by: Anonymous

I think that this guy is confused and doesn't know what he wants and is being selfish. He keeps coming back to you because he knows you will always be there to take him back. You deserve to be treated like a goddess and any man who cannot see your greatness and your beauty needs to be kicked to the curb - period!

We, as women, give too much of ourselves to guys who treat us like rubbish. You do not deserve to be treated this way and you deserve better and I assure you, there are better guys out there who will be able to see your worth and appreciate you and love you in the way that you are meant to be loved.

Love yourself and respect yourself and you will attract someone who will love and respect you.

(LET THIS MAN GO AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. YOU DESERVE THE BEST AND THIS GUY DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO GIVE YOU THE BEST!)

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