is he over me ?

by Christine
(Canada)

I dated this guy for 8 months, he told me he loved me and i didnt want to say it if i didnt feel it, so i waited until i was ready. When the moment came i said it and when i said it i meant it! as the relationship progressed i was happy. i accepted his flaws and i respected him for who he was as a person. I knew that he suffered greatly from depression but i was okay with that. He dumped me because our senior year of high school started to get very hectic. So he ended it with me. then he asked me not to "forget him". then we started seeing each other again because we missed each other, but he ended it again. for 3 months he keeps coming back and then leaving. We stopped talking for 1 month and then he came back again, asking me where we stood in a relationship and doing all the things he used to do when we were dating. Then i found out that he was telling our friends different stories for why he broke up with me. Then he saw that i was becoming distant because i figure im single, i want to stay open minded and meet new people even though i still love him. Now i hear that hes been talking about me to our friends saying im clingy, annoying, and i follow him around and that im not over him, when hes the one who keeps coming back to me. I just dont want to get my hopes up if hes just going to start ignoring me again so i keep my distance. is he over me? jealous? immature? i just dont know what to do and how to react and ive been told to get over him but every time i try he always comes back . i just cant seem to get over him no matter how hard i try, i really love him and im okay with not being with him i just want him to be happy and he doesnt seem happy.