You need to talk to him about how he really feels because if he really loves you, he should be willing to do anything to make it work.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years and right now, he goes to school in Arizona and I go to school in Illinois and we have been making it work and our relationship is perfect.
I feel like he should be over randomly hooking up with girls and thinking about a future with one.
Talk to him and if he doesn't want what you want, you should walk away as hard as that sounds.
Oct 02, 2009 Rating
Risk It by: Penny
Don't be so scared of losing him that you don't take a risk for yourself.
Oct 02, 2009 Rating
Long Distance Relationship by: Anonymous
First of all, as a girl who is in her third long distance relationship, I don't see distance as an excuse. If you want to be with someone you will make it work regardless.
My first one was when my boyfriend graduated and went away to school, and the second during my sophomore year of college. Both ended for reasons not related to distance.
The long distance4 relationship I am in now is the hardest yet. My boyfriend is in the Air Force and we started dating after he had been enlisted for a few years. But after a few months of talking everyday and a few visits we realized it's what we wanted, regardless of the obstacles we would have to overcome.
If you are as perfect as he says you are, he should want to keep a hold of you. Why would he want you being single and give someone else the chance to snatch you up? Have you even tried dating? If not, how do you think he would respond.
Maybe to him, these little visits and things are just to keep you hanging on. You deserve better than that. You shouldn't just be a convenience girlfriend/friend.
I don't feel as if I missed anything while dating someone long distance in college. It was more important to me to wake up in my own bed, maybe a little hungover, but still have my boyfriend to call than to wake up next to someone I didn't know and have no idea what happened last night.
Long distance relationships are all about sacrifices for each other, and it doesn't seem like he is willing to sacrifice too much for you. I know that it sucks to hear that, but you're in college, and have how many different options of guys that are going to want to be with you all the time, not just when he feels like you may be slipping out from under his thumb.
If he doesn't consider your relationship enough to pass on the "full college experience" of drinking and hooking up with random people, then why should you? It sounds like he may really value you and could possibly buckle down in your relationship, but why should he if you let him off and accept him back every time. He's having his cake and eating it too so to speak.
You teach people how to treat you. Show him how you would like to be treated and if he doesn't love you enough to respect and fulfill your needs, then move on. You only have one life, don't blow it.
