Long Distance Relationships - Advice for those Whose Lover is Miles Away

As someone who has had a number of long distance relationships (one that lead to a marriage going on 19 years), I know what it takes to go the distance and make your relationship work. In fact, I'm currently writing an ebook about it. If you'd like to be notified when the book comes out, make sure to sign up for my free newsletter by putting your email and first name in the subscription box above.

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Here's a question from Alex, who is confused about whether to continue a long distance relationship or get back together with a woman who lives close to home.

Dear Laura Love,

Oh, God, Laura, I'm a wreck. I'm in a long distance relationship with a girl called Danielle. We've known each other about a year and have been going out for almost five months now and we love each other, but I have trust issues.

I keep having these thoughts that she might be cheating because she is way too good for me: she's prettier, smarter, kinder, nicer, and better in every way. Even though she says she loves me and would never ever cheat, there is still that stupid voice in my head.

And what's worse is, I love my best friend, Vicky. We've known each other almost four years and I used to date her. It wasn't until after we broke up that we became unbelievably closer and friendlier, but now these old feelings are re-emerging for her.

My mind is total mess. I can't think straight and I can't even function. What should I do?

Please, please help.

Signed Alex

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