Losing Intimacy and Attraction

by Corrinne

My husband and I have been married for 8 years. Within the past year, our intimate relations have deteriorated. We only have intimacy perhaps 4 times per year.

I love my husband dearly, but I no longer feel an attraction. He works long hours and I spend the majority of my time managing the home and our child. We are 50 and 56. Is this normal?

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Nov 25, 2008
Marriage Lacking Intimacy and Attraction
by: Laura Love

It is normal to lose attraction over time because events, the busyness of life, old hurts and angers cause most couples to fall into a rut.

Any therapist worth her salt will tell you that a relationship takes work. You have to work on it to maintain interest, intimacy and attraction. Many of us forget about this because we get caught up in all the things we have to do.

It's worth it to work on your relationship though, even if it seems impossible right now to change things. And of course, if you don't take learn how to resolve issues in a relationship and to reignite your interest in each other, then you'll have the same problems in your next relationship.

What you need is something to help you and your spouse renew your interest in each other, exercises that you can do together that will help peel away the layers of hurt, anger and unmet expectations.

Recently, a number of my subscribers have written in to share their positive experiences after using a program called The Us Factor. One woman told me she feels like her husband is once again the guy she first fell in love with, another claimed it saved her marriage from divorce.

I've read some literature about the program and it looks very good. I'll be getting a copy soon and writing a review. You might want to take a look at it because for a limited time you can get it on a trial basis.

If you and your husband have been together for a long time, it's worth it to try to save your marriage. If you do the work, even though it may feel a bit uncomfortable at first, it will change the quality of your relationship and your life.

Having a close relationship with a significant other is one of the strongest predictors of good health. This is another good reason to work on your relationship.

Hope this helps.

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