Love and the Caste System in India
by ritika
Love and the Caste System in India Hey Laura, My problem is that I have been in relationship with a guy for the last 2 and half years. We met through Orkut and then we meet in reality. We fell for each other and have been continuing with each since that time. This year, when I spoke to him about talking to his parents, he answered me that he had a word with his parents, but his parents are not ready because of the caste issue in India. Since I am not a Gujurati and of their caste to maintain their status in society they won't let us marry. He accepted their decision and told me to forget him as his parents are fixing his engagement with some other girl of their caste. Five months later, he told me that he is no longer engaged and is single. I asked him whether his parents would agree to our relationship this time, to which his answer was "No," but he still wants me to be his friend. I don't know what to do. Should I move ahead in life or to wait for him so that he can find some courage or way to talk to his parents. At times it feels he doesn't want our relationship because his parents are not ready but still he needs that. Can you please help me to know how I can get to know what is exactly going on in his mind, as he himself is not very clear as to what he wants to do? Is it possible to be his friend after having loved him so much and imagining that we were going to be together for rest of our lives? Click here to read or post comments. |