Love Problem

by Sayed Masood
(Jilalabad, Ningarhar, Afghnistan)

This is Sayed. Well, it's is an honor to have my problem solved by you.

I have a friend (girlfriend) who is a nice, well behaved and intelligent. It has been almost three months that we are committed in this relationship and we do not know each other much even though our parents have been very close friends for years.

It has been a year since she and her father settled in the country where I live. They are U.S. citizens.

So about the relationship: even though it has not been long since we know each other, we trust and respect each others values by heart. We share secrets and I have always been curious to find out more about her.

Before I tell you more about this, I would like to mention that she is older than me by five years. I am 18 and she is 23. My point is that we have trusted each other beyond limit and I never thought that someday we would face a breakdown.

The reason for our breakdown has been my irresponsibility regarding her.I always tell her that I want to ask her something or want to share something very secret, not that I want to tell her that I love her, but other lots of important things. So then, I do not stick to my words and tell her what I wanted to tell her. This has taken place several times before and she tells me how much she hates when I do this.

Unfortunately, I never paid attention to what she said and I did the same thing again two nights ago. This time in response to my action, she went very harsh on me. She texted that I have lost my position, I have been very irresponsible, I don't have the decency of valuing her time because I don't care for her and she doesn't give a damn anymore. This depressed me beyond limits. I haven't slept in the last 24 hrs.

In fact, it is right that I have been irresponsible but I did not think that justified all the things she said. I didn't take this well and replied her with very harsh words. As a result, the situation got worse.

As a caring friend, I would like to settle everything down and get everything back to normal. The point is that she is so depressed that she doesn't even want to talk to me. She almost hates me but somehow, I have started to love her.

Please express your point of view about this situation. Thank you.

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