I just wanted to thank everyone who left advice on this situation. I have the results back and my current boyfriend is the father. Since being in this situation, I have decided to take time of from my personal relationship and start a new one with our Heavenly Father. Through him, all things are possible and I look forward to the road ahead.
Again, thank you.
Nov 06, 2009 Rating
think about the child by: Anonymous
I think the other two comments left are right on key. I just wanted to add one thing. Now that you have brought a life into this world, you must think about what is best for that child! Be that a father that shows unconditional love or one that as of right now, may love the child.... You know what is best, now you have to do the right thing by that child!
Nov 05, 2009 Rating
Love Triangle: The Choice Between Two Men by: Laura Love
Love Triangle: The Choice Between Two Men
You are in a fine mess because you can't seem to get over a man who you continue to pine for, even though you admit that you don't think that he's that into you.
While your ex boyfriend couldn't take his eyes off your child when you happened to run into him at a friend's house, this may just be a momentary crush because he sees his own reflection in the baby's eyes. Although he may have shown some interest in the child, this does not mean that he will be a good father to your child. It certainly sounds like he doesn't give you what you really need in a love relationship.
Your current boyfriend is right: you deserve more and so does your child. Although it concerns me that your current boyfriend is incarcerated, he has stood by you and is excited about being a father to this child. The choice to me seems obvious.
My advice: no matter what your child's paternity, stick by the boyfriend who is man enough to stick beside you and your child even when he knows the child may not be his. If your current boyfriend is the father of the child, move on with your life and leave your ex where he belongs: in the past.
If your ex is the father of the child, then you will have to discuss whether he is going to be a part of the child's life. If he does, this doesn't mean that you have to be with him, especially when you have a boyfriend who is more than willing to take care of you and be a good father to this child.
Nov 05, 2009 Rating
Which One to choose by: Penny
If the test comes back positive, you and your ex will want to talk about how he/both of you want things to be. ALTHOUGH REMEMBER...
(1). You stated the reason you allowed your current boyfriend in your life to begin with was because you felt your ex's feelings for you were not mutual and that left you feeling sad.
(2). Your ex told you it was up to you what you did with the pregnancy and he didn't want anything to do with you before and while you were carrying the child, he dodged you.
(3). It was your current boyfriend that made you realize/understand that you deserved better than the way your ex had been treating you. Furthermore, it was him that helped you stop chasing your ex and was there throughout out your pregnancy.
PLEASE don't treat your current boyfriend like your ex treated you before and during your pregnancy. It didn't matter to him who the child's father turn out to be. He Loves You and The Child!
Take some time to think about what's behind your ex's new found feelings. I understand he may turn out to be your child's father, but a baby can't make a person fall in love with the child's mother. Is it the child he cares and loves or both of you? Will his feelings last for you?
THINK ABOUT THIS, THINK ABOUT THIS, THINK ABOUT THIS AND TALK WITH OLDER PEOPLE BEFORE YOU DO ANY THING.
