I've been dating this guy for 6 months and really love him. We've been talking about marriage. Our relationship is strong, but the problem is one of his ex's. He speaks to most of his ex girlfriends like friends (for what I know) and at first, it bothered me about how close he is to a few of them.
I tried to find common ground with him because he is a grown man and I don't want to come across as if I don't trust him. So, I asked him to not talk to them on the phone all the time, a few times a week was fine but not all the time. And I asked him not to hang out with them behind my back or even at all because this looks like a date and that would bother me.
A few months ago, I was being sneaky looking through his phone and I know that is wrong, but I felt like he was hiding something, so I had to find out because if I just come out and ask he would be really defensive and lie anyway.
Turns out, he went out with one of his ex's when he told me he was hanging out with one of his guy friends. When I confronted him he told me that I am too insecure and jealous and that she is his friend and he was sorry for lying. We made an agreement that he wasn't going to do that again and he promised me he wasn't going to talk to her often any more because he loved me so much and wants to respect my feelings.
The other day, I went snooping again because something just didn't feel right and I found a text saying how glad he was to see her, meaning he went out with her again. I confronted him and he lied to me in my face and told me he hasn't seen in in a while. When I told him about the text, he got really angry and told me how I shouldn't be invading his privacy which is right, I shouldn't, but he is lying to me and continuing to do so. He left my house and went home.
This morning he called me apologizing, but I can't forgive him because I don't feel he is sorry and if he really loved me, he would respect how I feel. I feel I am really being nice about him associating with her to begin with.
I've never asked my boyfriend for anything other than not go out with her. He thinks apologizing will fix things, but it doesn't. He tells me that this is going to break us up and it will be my fault. I feel like he is manipulating me. What should I do? Am I wrong?Reverse phone detective - find out who is calling your significant other