This is one of those relationships that I would would say isn't worth sticking up for. You should know when enough is enough. This is what I always keep in mind.. "If a relationship is not healthy for me both emotionally and physically then I'm out!
It's not worth it to stick up for someone who doesn't even have their own self respect. I say throw him out of your house and your life! You need someone else who is better.
Do not say that it's too late, I'm too old blah, blah, blah! Remember it's not only you that is getting affected but also the people who really love and care for you, like your son.
Sorry if I became too emotional. I really hate guys act like that.
Sep 22, 2009 Rating
update by: Anonymous
In my opinion, it doesn't matter that your son is an adult. Your destructive decisions and/or lack of self confidence and actions against this man are still damaging to your son.
I'm sorry about how strongly this is coming off, but I honestly feel that you need to talk to someone who can help you out. You are knowingly in a one-sided relationship with a leech!
Sep 21, 2009 Rating
Clarification by: Anonymous
My son who was visiting was in the Navy. He is grown. Just thought I should let everyone know. All my children are now grown.
Sep 21, 2009 Rating
Don't Allow It by: Penny
I only read the first two lines and that told me all I need to know. The only thing anyone can do to anyone else in a personal relationship is what that person allows.
Sep 21, 2009 Rating
You've got one life only by: Anonymous
You lack the self confidence that you need in order to live the life that you dream of. You know that he is just using you, doesn't care about you, is emotionally damaging to you and your son, yet you lack the confidence and strength to move on.
You will encounter this over and over in your life until you learn. You need to find the strength to teach your son self-worth or else he will follow a similar pattern in his life choices. My recommendation would be for you to seek out help from a professional.
Sep 21, 2009 Rating
It's going to be okay without him by: Anonymous
Girl, I have been in your position before and he is just using you and keeping you around until you are used up, he doesn't care about you or your feelings: he could give a shit.
He is a selfish bastard. You need to be strong and leave him. Trust me, I know. It's hard, but in the end, it's worth it. In fact my ex who I was with for eight years was the same way and now is just worse and I hope you get out before he really hurts you or your son.
The thing is, I would make up excuses for him. I thought as long as he came home to me, everything was okay, but in the long run, it wasn't.
You have to do this for your son. It will be hard, but you deserve better. Don't lower yourself to his level because he is going to keep on doing it and then it will be harder for you to leave.
Trust me, you can do it by yourself. Your son and your life are more important.
