Madly in Love

by Triangle Girl

For the past 7 months I have been madly in love with a man, we will call him Bobby. Bobby and I met when i joined his band. We fell in love at the same moment, it was perfect. The problem: Both of us were with other people. As time went on, i knew i was in love with him so i broke up with my boyfriend. He was getting ready to break up with his gf when the unthinkable occurred, she told him she was pregnant. (we did find out she did this on purpose because she knew she was losing him)

Since that time, we have been seeing each other when we can and talking every single day on the phone. He feels trapped because he cares deeply about his baby that will be born at the end of December 2010. He doesn't want to be with her but is afraid to leave. She has had some emotional issues in the past and has tried to kill herself. He's afraid she may hurt herself and the baby if he leaves.

Although it may seem he wants to have his cake and eat it too, this is not the case. We are in love with each other and want to be together. He has told me before he wishes i was the one who was pregnant because he wants to spend his life with me.

As you can imagine, everyday seems to get harder for each of us. I guess i am looking for some advice on how to proceed. I hate this "love triangle" we are in and the constant sneaking around. But i love him and i don't want to lose him and leave him to suffer as he is right now.

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Oct 05, 2010
Move On
by: Anonymous

Let him go. He needs to make a decision on what he wants to do with his life. It's not good to use a baby as an excuse to stay with someone. It will never work.

As for the girl, she needs to seek help and he can help her by getting her the help she needs, so that she will be healthy (mentally) to take care of herself and the new baby that is on the way.

Also, if you are still young, love will find you.. You will fall in love more than once. Stop putting yourself on hold for him and making it convenient for him to be with both of you all, because, you better believe he is still having sex with her and you too.

Please don't get pregnant by this guy, he is totally confused himself. I wish you all the best.

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