Man with Controlling Mother

by JAB
(Virginia)

Man with Controlling Mother

I'm dating a guy who is really nice, but I feel that I'm not getting everything I need out of the relationship. Every time we have conversation about things, he always says "My mother told me this or that" as if that is the answer I was looking for.

I do understand that his mother means a lot to him, but it's beginning to push me away. The reason for this is because I feel that at the age of 44, he should be able to state what he feels; not what he learned from his mom.

I also feel that he is not supportive in his relationships. I'm too scared to talk to him about things that bother me because he worships all things his mother states to him. He stated to me that his mother told him that women like to use men and that is why he is not romantic.

I'm to the point where I'm ready to give him permission to spend the rest of his life with his mother and her poor advice. The only reason why I'm still here is because I see a guy whose life is getting ruined because he listens to his mother who is really too opinionated and controlling. Should I walk away and let him lose out on a chance to see love for what it is?

Joyce