Married and Pregnant

I'm married and my husband and I have 3 kids. We've been married 4 1/2 years but he left me for another girl. During our marriage, we would always fight and he would hit me and cheat and now he has another baby with her and I have one with someone else.


I still love him and want us to be a family and be there for his kids, but he plays games. He's with his new woman, but we have been together since he's been with her. She doesn't believe a thing I tell her. He's cheated on her plenty of times with me. I don't know what to do any more. HELP ME PLEASE.

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Mar 26, 2009
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The True Spirit (Love)
by: Anonymous

I'm leaving this message for the spiritually-minded person that replied to married and pregnant. In your writing, you can see the judgment and sickening look you give.

Yes, she needs to move on and work on herself and focus on her children but encouragement and support and kind words will strengthen someone to make the right decisions, not judgments and fingers being point at them.

Are you some type of pharrise? Because your reply had a spirit of judgment on it, but that's about it. Check yourself before you reply, in other words, take the plank out your own before you point out your sisters.

Mar 26, 2009
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married and pregnant
by: Anonymous

You need professional help. You have no self-worth. Gt help. He's a LOSER. Move on.

Mar 26, 2009
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WHAT DO U SEE?
by: Spiritually-Minded

This man is exactly who you see him to be, so believe what you see. A liar, a cheater, and an abuser. How can you tell the other woman anything when you are still seeing him yourself.

Set an example for her and your children. Stop seeing him. You have to start believing that you and your children deserve better. AIDS and other STD's are running rampant in our society. You need to protect yourself so you can be here for your children because you wouldn't want them to be raised by someone like him.

Separate yourself from him today and have no contact unless it is for the sake of the children. I hope that you have him on child-support.

Mar 25, 2009
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Love yourself
by: Latrice

Look, stop and take a step back. What you are doing? I have done and it it was 10 times worse than your. I have 5 children my last child Heaven is 3 and she is by a guy that could not be faithful to me or her. He left his babymama for me.

At first we was friends and I got caught up trying to fill up my loneliness. Her and I never actually fought but she used to tell me stuff and I was like she crazy and if he is it will come to the light. He gave me chlamydia while I was pregnant with his child.

He never told me but she did. My baby could have came out deformed. He wasn't there when I had her. I moved out of state when she was 6 weeks and since he's been with plenty others and have another baby from her name Angel. but what I've learned since I've been gone is it took time for me to get over. Time heals.

I deserve better and you do too. I thought back to all the lies and how he manipulated not only me but her. And I actually felt a little sorry for her because even though I'm not there he's found another one to play the game. And the last thing I figured out is he doesn't love himself so I cannot expect him to love me.

Love yourself, honey. No one wants to be alone, but if you seek the Lord, he will heal you and give you desires of your heart. He might fix that man and restore your relationship, but don't compromise. He left you so unless he wants to mend your relationship the right way, let it be. Love yourself and work on you.

God Bless you and yours!

Mar 25, 2009
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Sounds like a pattern that isn't going to change
by: Anonymous

If he's cheating on her with you, he'll cheat on you with her (or anyone else). He's not going to change and you will always be getting hurt.
If that's what you want, go for it. Your life is what you make it.

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