married but also in love with a friend of 15 years

i've been in love with my friend for the past 9 years, but never had the courage to tell him this, probably thought that he didn't like me in that special way! so in a sense i moved on with my life.


i'm now married for almost 5 years now, but for the past few months my friend & i have been talking on the phone & visiting each other and feelings have stirred back up.

he has a girlfriend but has also confessed his feelings for me & that he would like to be with me!

i don't know what to do because my husband doesn't really spend time with me, but my friend always has. my husband doesn't take the time to talk to me on the phone while he's at work but my friend does every day.

for my birthday my husband did nothing to make that day special, but my friend did! what am i to do?

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Oct 30, 2015
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Dec 27, 2011
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Flattered
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We all want to love and be loved. Your friend telling you he wanted you in a special way is a hugely flattering idea, and the urge to reciprocate would have been strong even if your husband had made a massive effort on your birthday, or had spent ages on the phone with you.

Your friend goes to a lot of trouble and almost makes your husband seem neglectful in comparison. He is also signalling that is is being neglectful to his own girlfriend for your sake.

If you have fallen out of love with your husband, that is one thing. But if this is simply a case of the grass being greener on the other side of the fence then you have some soul-searching to do. Remember that your marriage vows might have been declared in front of God, but the promises were actually to your husband and yourself. There are those who believe there is no greater wrong you can commit than betrayal. I speak from experience when I say that once you walk that path, you will not be the same person. Think hard. Choose wisely. Be happy. Remember that the path to long-lasting happiness might not be the one which brings smiles soonest.

Dec 18, 2010
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how to choose
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how do you know who you love more!? how to choose?

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