married but also in love with a friend of 15 years

i've been in love with my friend for the past 9 years, but never had the courage to tell him this, probably thought that he didn't like me in that special way! so in a sense i moved on with my life.

i'm now married for almost 5 years now, but for the past few months my friend & i have been talking on the phone & visiting each other and feelings have stirred back up.

he has a girlfriend but has also confessed his feelings for me & that he would like to be with me!

i don't know what to do because my husband doesn't really spend time with me, but my friend always has. my husband doesn't take the time to talk to me on the phone while he's at work but my friend does every day.

for my birthday my husband did nothing to make that day special, but my friend did! what am i to do?