Miltary Distance and Overcoming Cheating

by Amanda

I am 23 and my husband and I have been married for a little over two years. We met in Oct 05, got pregnant in Jan 06 and got married in Feb 06. So as you see everything has happened really fast. We were apart for 6 months from March 07 until Sept 07 and then together for 6 months from Sept. 07 until Feb 08. During that time, we decided to have our second child.

I went to visit my family for two months while he went to school. During the time we were apart, he told me that he has been unhappy for awhile.

We started to fight a lot on the phone and through email. He turned to a friend and he had an affair with her. It all came out and I forgave him and he feels like shit and said he has stopped talking to her. I believe him because he is in another country and she is in another state.

I am still in Florida. I was too pregnant to go overseas with him. So here I am pregnant and raising a almost-two-year old and dealing with the fact he cheated on me. I forgive him for doing this, but I don't know how to forget it or how to get that trust back.

We won't be together for 8 more months. I don't want to keep bringing it up to him, but I need some advice on how to move past this. It's not just that I have low self-esteem, but also that I think about what happened, blame myself and wonder what she did that I don't. Any advice will help.

Thank you

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