No Help from Deadbeat Dad
I decided to walk away from a dysfunctional relationship 2 months ago. I have caught my toddler's father cheating on me multiple times and have been encountered by women on different occasions.
What I don't understand is while I was there dealing with all the drama and allowing my confidence and self esteem to be destroyed, my toddler's father made sure he did his part in providing for our toddler, but as soon as I say enough is enough and walk away from it all, after catching him in the act with yet another woman, he stops providing for our toddler, in fact he denies that he even exists.
The first month after I left he continued to help with our toddler's needs and continued to pay half on childcare. But once 2nd month rolled around NOTHING! He doesnt even answer my calls nor reply to text messages.
I since stopped calling and texting because I do have a court order for child support. I figure I can get it now or later, for child support keeps good records. But this really bothers me, for I was doing fine with being on my own and moving on with my life until he just starting completely ignoring his responsibilities as a father.
Why doesnt he seem to understand that if he's not paying his part of childcare that I am paying it because I still have to go to work. Why doesnt he seem to understand that if he's not buying pampers and wipes when it's his turn to that I have to buy them because the baby still needs them.
Why doesnt he understand that just like him I would love to have some free time to socialize and do things without our toddler and without having to find a babysitter and that it would be nice to drop our toddler off to be with him every other weekend.
I've been furious for a whole month and I hate feeling this way. Im behind in my bills now and Im not able to do the things that I used to do like get my nails done or go to the beauty salon. I havent paid my WE bill for having to pay childcare on my own. I cant afford to take care of our toddler on my own. Child support has done their part. Now I'm just trying to rebudget. But this hurts worst then being cheated on.
I want to move on with my life and develop a good co-parenting relationship with my toddler's father. What do you think about me packing my toddler up and dropping him off unannounced one Friday afternoon and picking him up on Sunday around 7 pm?
Do you think this will encourage him to start back taking care of our toddler. This is his only child and he's older than myself. he's 40. Why is he acting this way?