On the Rebound

by meili
(australia)

My boyfriend is actually my best friend, we're college friends we've been friends for more than 10 yrs. He had a six year relationship with his ex girlfriend... they just broke up 10 months ago, 6 months after their break up he tried to commit suicide, luckily he survived with my help, being his best friend am always at his side.


(I may not be physically present to him because im based abroad but I make sure he's ok by calling him everyday and i even go back home every 2 months just to be with him). After he recovered from that suicide attempt he asked me to help him, he said he wanted to move on with me, i love my best friend even though i know I'm on the rebound i said yes to him.

It's our 4th month only, everything is fine, we make love....but recently, he uploaded a picture of a puppy from an old folder in facebook (labeled as family), unintentionally his picture with the ex girlfriend came out. it was an unpublished photo before so when he uploaded a new one it came out on his wall post, i saw that picture before but i didn't ask him to delete it because it was there before but i got hurt when i saw it posted on his facebook.

i asked him to delete it but he doesn't want to. he said it was past and he doesn't love the person anymore and he will only look bitter if he deletes it....

what should i do with it? do i have the right to get angry with him for not deleting it or should i just let it be there? i'm afraid that if i insist on deleting it, he'll get angry and the friendship that we have for so long we'll just be vanished like that...

i don't know if I'm going to believe my boyfriend for saying that he doesn't love his ex anymore.. what do you think? is he still not over his ex?

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Nov 01, 2011
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Dearest
by: Anonymous

Just faced this through smoothly. Believe in yourself. Keep trusting him.

Dec 18, 2010
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stop this relationship
by: Anonymous

you are just his friend...please for god's sake be honest towards yourself....stay with him just as friend...he won't love you dear....ask him to choose between you and his ex...
help him just as friend...he is not for you... take care.

Dec 16, 2010
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Move on
by: Anonymous

Save yourself heartache. Take it from some one who knows, any person who tries suicide over a girl friend is very unstable. It's nice to try and help him but as far as a long term relationship, run as fast as you can to the nearest exit.

You think you love him but I don't see how you could ever trust him. Cut your loss and get going.

Dec 16, 2010
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You're Right
by: Anonymous

well for me you're right because if he doesn't love his ex he would not do that. i mean he should delete the pictures so you wont GET hurt.

Dec 15, 2010
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Wait for him
by: Kayla

After reading this it seems to me that you are right: he does still love his ex. but it may be in a way that he cannot see. it will end soon, just keep showing him how lucky he is to be with you. Not by saying it but you got to show it and for the time being just try to forget about the pic.

after you to have been dating a little longer bring it back up and if he really loves you he will take it down because he wont care about what his ex thinks of him only what you do. and he will see how it is hurting you and feel truly sorry.

PS: i hope everything works out for you 2 and i hope that i may be of some help to you :)

Dec 15, 2010
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by: luna

well he needs to move on but then again the wounds will heal with time.

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