by Michelle

I have been with my bf 7 yrs now. I am 21 and he's 25 . We've been through a lot. He has cheated on me in the past & the memories still haunt me.. I love him a lot but i'm a bit scared he hurts me again.

Last month he told me that he's ready to settle himself and start a family. He told me he wanted me to get pregnant. That night we had sex and he broke inside of me (i was not in my safe period).

I don't have a problem with him being my child's father but i'm afraid that he hurts me again. Every time we have silly little arguments i keep telling him if i get pregnant i would have an abortion and he keeps getting really upset with me.

I'm really afraid that if i get pregnant he hurts me again like in the past (because i was pregnant in the past and had an abortion & within that time he was cheating with a girl). Any advice would be appreciated. Am i wrong for holding on to the past experiences we have?

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Oct 16, 2011
by: Anonymous

hi, well im sorry for u..i was in a relation for 8 years we were the same ages as u, now im 30 in he cheated on me and i forgive him because i feel bad like it was my fault but then he cheated again with another women after that he cried even he call her and tell her to stop..but in the end i believe in him but the ghost was always there in we were not happy i have no trust in him at all so we decide to go in separate ways..well really it was my decision cause he think everything was ok..because he was always cheated on me with the same girl he call and i found they were together for 4 years and i was live in a lie half of my life with him. its true ones they cheat they do it again.

May 10, 2011
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by: laurie louvier 29~texas

its so hard to let go of the past wounds that we have from an abusive or cheating relationship. i cant say that once a cheater always a cheater is true, but in my situation, 8 yrs together, it hasnt stopped.

So, my advice would be, never let your guard down & always listen to your womans gut instinct. pray! pray! pray! yes the past is the past but in today's world, you can't be a doormat! yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. thank god for today, the present.

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