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by lover girl

I have been secretly dating this guy for about three months now. The reason why I want to keep it in the dark is because I am not ready to face my family about it yet.


See the thing is he used to date my cousin and at some point they lived together.But now they broke up and moved on with their own lives.

Then I came along and somewhere down the road ended up falling in love with him. But I don't have the guts to face my cousin and tell her the truth about us dating so I force him keep it in silence. But he really wants to get serious with me. He even wants me to move in with him few months from now when he is financially stable and when I am ready and have the consent of my family.

The thing is I am worried getting with him might come between me and my cousin. We are very close and I love her so much and wouldn't want anything to pull us apart even by an inch. I know she has moved on and committed herself to another relationship. But I know she has a lot of resentment towards this guy from their past history and she may feel that I am choosing him over her or something like that .And I kind of don't want her to look down on me and say that I am taking her left-over or eating my own words because I used to tell her that I'd never want to take her ex boyfriends.

I also fear that our relationship may not work out and we might end up like theirs did-broken. But i understand that was the past and they were kids. But now he is older and matured and wiser. I believe and trust that he has become something bigger and better than what he was before and is more responsible and ready to take care of me and commit himself to me.

But anyway the bottom line is I have just broken up with him because I didn't have the courage to face my cousin and didn't want to keep him waiting on me. And now i'm living in regret and a little bit of confusion and wondering if what I did was right or wrong?

I have several questions that I hope you will not over look and help me by giving me answers and advice. Please I have looked all over the internet looking for answers from astrology to quotes but I believe that talking to an expert was the best way.

Here are my questions:

1. Did I do the right thing by letting him go just like that?
2. Would it be risky and too fast moving in with him and living together?
3. What should I have told my cousin or done better for her?
4. Am I just infatuated, rebounding or in love?
5. Is he infatuated, rebounding or in love with me?
5. Should I take him back? If yes. How?

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Mar 03, 2011
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don't let family come between you
by: Kristen Marie

Well you shouldn't let family come between you and a person you love because that happened to me and the person i love <3 but im still with him, you should have just stayed with him because if he didnt love you then he would not have asked you to move in and be comited to you, If your cousin loved you the way you explained then she would accept the fact that you guys are together and you all love each other, so FREEZE and think about it do you want to be alone or just stay there living in regret? or do you want to be HAPPILY in his arms?

Feb 12, 2011
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yes..
by: Anonymous

Just talk...

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