Relationship Question - Dating a Nice Guy

Relationship Question: When Dating a Nice Guy Doesn't Satisfy Your Heart

Relationship Question

- What if you are in a relationship with a person who you don't really like all that much, but that person is VERY nice and he always knows just what to say and do and he's like one of the nicest boys that you ever went out with in your entire life. What should I do? Break up with him or keep this going because I'm at the point where I really don't know what to do. Please help me!

Signed,
Chris

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Today's relationship question is about dating a nice guy. Are you in a relationship with a partner who treats you right, but doesn't satisfy your soul?

Here is my answer to Chris' relationship question:

I understand your dilemma, because I've been there, done that. When I was in high school and in college I had several relationships with guys who were really nice, but I wasn't in love with them. What I learned should comfort you - Niceness does not equal love.

Before I answer your relationship question, let me point out what you're doing by staying in a relationship with a guy you're not in love with.

First of all, you're fooling yourself. You're staying in this relationship because you feel guilty. This guy treats you right, so why isn't that enough for you is probably what you're thinking. But it isn't enough and you feel this in your heart, so let yourself have your feelings. Your feelings are telling you that this isn't love.

Second, although you probably don't want to hurt this guy, you're stringing him along and actually hurting him more in the long run because you're wasting his time and preventing him from finding a girl who will love and appreciate him. You can't make yourself fall in love with him. Either you love him or you don't.

Third, instead of settling for what's easy, gather the courage to discover what you really want. If you stay with this guy, you will end up resenting him and that's not fair to you or him.

Ultimately, the choice comes down to continuing to date Mr. Nice or having the heart to search for Mr. Right—a guy who will treat you right AND satisfy your soul.

I'm here to tell you, Chris, that it is possible to find a guy who is interesting, caring, respectful and makes your heart leap every time you see him. I know because I am married to such a guy.

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