Relationship Tip - What If Your Loved Ones Don't Like the Guy You're DatingRelationship Tip - Not Sure if Friends and Family Like the Guy You're Dating?Me and this guy are dating. I don't know if my family and friends approve of him. So should I dump him or tell my family to deal with it? Signed Dear Tiffani, You claim that you don't know if your family and friends approve of the guy you're dating. Why not ask them? Find out the truth and why they do or do not approve. Although their approval may not determine whether you continue the relationship, often people who care for you can see important tells that you might miss. Romantic love can be blind, so the insights of others may be helpful, especially if they are not jealous in any way and have your best interests at heart. Relationship Tip: Sometimes friends and family can see important tells that we might miss because when in love, we are often blind to a person's shortcomings.
Second, understand that you do not need the approval of your family and friends to continue to date this guy, although it does make things easier if they do. Arrange a get together of your family and friends and see how they respond to your mention that you're inviting your boyfriend. Once the event takes place, watch with an observant eye to see if you can figure out if there is a problem and what it is. Sometimes people initially dislike others that they come to care for after they get to know them better and of course, sometimes the opposite is true. Relationship Tip: Always take responsibility for your feelings, rather than making excuses to end an unsatisfying relationship.Third, I sense that your readiness to dump your boyfriend if he is not liked by your family and friends may indicate that you don't like him all that much. Are you looking for an excuse to get out of the relationship? If so, be honest with yourself. It's better to take responsibility for your feelings so you can eventually have a great relationship when the right person comes along, than to get into the habit of blaming things on others or allowing people outside yourself to make important decisions in your life. I hope this helps. Laura Love Still undecided if your relationship is right for you? We highly recommend
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