Relationship Trouble - Dating Ex Wife's Best Friend
A little background...The wife and I recently split up after 11 years of being together, married for the latter 5. We have a 3 year old together too. I met her when I was 20 and I'm now 31. The break up was about 3 months ago.
Throughout our rocky relationship, I always had feelings for and fantasies of her best friend. I NEVER said anything to "the friend" until recently. About a month ago, I confessed these feelings to "the friend." I realized they were deeper than I originally thought due to my suppressing them because of my marriage. Relationship Trouble - Confession of Feelings
At first, she was completely shocked to hear my confession. She and I have been talking a lot about these feelings and she's come to realize she has similar strong feelings for me too. We have had sexual relations.
I know it sounds bad and it is wrong to do this to a friend. However, our feelings are super strong. I love this girl like I never knew I could. It feels like the love you witness in a movie. She has changed my entire outlook on life.
After being together with someone for as long and as young as I was, being in another relationship is truly the last thing on my mind. But, I am in love beyond control. And she is too. I can see myself with her for the rest of my life.Relationship Trouble - Looking for Advice
Now, I know we should never have done this due to the circumstances. And she feels extremely torn. She has been able to separate the two due to knowing my ex and how selfish and crappy she has treated me through the years.
What also helped her separate the two has been that my wife left me for another man.
She has betrayed her best friend, but found the love of her life (not bragging). She feels the conflict this creates would be too much to bear for us to be together. We would totally run away if I didn't have a child. I want to marry this girl and have a family and she does too.
Not sure how to break it to the ex.
She thinks we should stop because of the impossibilities of dealing with what comes with the betrayal. At the same time, she wants to continue on because of how passionate we feel for one another. And because of how great we are together.
I really that think breaking it off and going separate ways is out of the question. I think we're in too deep.
Any thoughts? Any advice on my relationship trouble? Whats your opinion? I need any sort of feedback. Thanks.