Should I go back to my husband?

by Stephanie
(Wilmington, NC)

About 3 months ago, I left my husband. He was controlling, manipulative, emotionally, and physically abusive towards me. We've been married almost 4 years, and I just couldn't take it anymore. Since I've left, he has completed anger management classes and is currently attending AA meetings. We still occasionally talk on the phone and I can tell that he's changed a lot.


I have been so happy since I left him, like a whole new person. I do still love him, but I don't know if he's putting on an act or if this is for real. Can he really unlearn his bad behavior in just 3 months? Or am I just being manipulated again?


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Nov 20, 2009
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All About Your Happiness
by: Anonymous

You answered your own question when you said I'VE BEEN SO HAPPY SINCE I'VE LEFT. I'm just afraid that if you go back it may be worse. And now that you are finally happy, don't be scared to be alone. You complete yourself. See how happy you can be. Don't fall back into that same rut.

I just don't think you can cure years of behavior in 3 months but this is all my opinion. You have to ask yourself the tough questions and go with your heart.

Nov 19, 2009
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Do You Still Love Him?
by: Anonymous

Unfortunately you will not know if he has really changed until you give him a chance. He may be manipulating you, but he may genuinely want to change and be with you. Do you still love him? Do you love the person he is "changing" into? Do you feel he deserves another chance?

Answer these questions for yourself and then decide whether or not you should go back to him.

Nov 18, 2009
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Manipulated
by: Penny

I think you need to live on your own longer, two years, while giving yourself time to know what you need and want while observing your husband. To me, three months just doesn't seem long enough for this big change he's showing you.

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