So freaking confused
I'm going to try to make this several year long story as short as possible. So, throughout the marriage my husband has hid several "girls who are friends" from work... Even through I've always been the noisy type of wife and like to know and picture what his day is like. I have always been 100% upfront, honest, forthcoming, etc, of any and every conversion I've had with a male that was not work related, even though we used to work together for years so he knew all of the men anyway and they are and were always mutual friends. However when he left the company I would ask him about males and females that he worked with but 6 years later there has been an unfortunate pattern of deception... He hides certain girls from me who are much younger than us, yet he initially always tells me they are fat and old and ugly, which some simple internet research always proves to extremely inaccurate. If I knew these people, women even existed on this planet and he introduced them to me, I truly would not feel threatened however it's one secret after another and I only ever find out by snooping, which I have 2 small babies to take care of and a house, etc... I don't need or have time to be a freaking private investigator, but it's the only way I've ever uncovered reality. After all that "short story" I've decided he has had some type of emotional affairs... my question is how do I know I'm getting A. the full story and B. that I've actually been fortunate to luckily uncover all of them? Please help me pull my head out of my ass. My brain is do clouded because of the commitment of marriage and obviously most importantly the amazing beautiful children.