Struggling Engagement
by Marc
(Council Bluffs Iowa)
My fiance and I have been dating for a while and I never noticed that I was being controlling until it was too late. I have had plenty time to think about everything and make sure I can right my wrong.
Then some random guy comes into play and even her best friends know this guy is trouble. She says she likes him but I know as well as she does that he is only saying the things she wants to hear right now.
She was pregnant with our child for 2 1/2 months and we lost our baby. I have never had to deal with such a thing before and I didn't know how to react. Instead of being there for her, I isolated myself and something changed in me that day.
She's told her fair share of lies but I was willing to work past them. Well, one day she wanted me to go to church but she didn't text or call me from 8am-2pm, so I started worrying and I never have the right words to say so they came out wrong and it just hasn't been the same since.
I love her with all my heart and I truly know that and realize what I have to do to make things right. I see now that I was being controlling and not just trying to keep her safe which is all I thought I was doing, but it turns out wrong.
Please let me know any opinions you might have.