A Simple Approach to Fix an Unhappy Marriage

Fix Your Relationship with Your Imagination

Think about when you and your spouse were first dating. Remember how this felt. Close your eyes and remember how overcome you were by your partner, how you wanted nothing more than to be together. Share with your spouse what first attracted you to him or her and ask him or her to share the same with you. Allow your spouse's description of what attracted him or her to you to touch your heart.

Even though you may have an unhappy marriage, if your relationship started with a strong mutual attraction, there is hope. It is very likely that the love you feel for each other is buried beneath the hurt and resentment that crop up in every marriage. By using your imagination to bring back happy feelings, you can create a different outcome than you have right now.

Help Fix an Unhappy Marriage by Making a Date

Couples in unhappy marriages, often complain that they spend little or no time together. Another problem is that couples tend to get mired in their routines, which means their marriage lacks spontaneity, a quality of their relationship that they probably enjoyed most when they first started dating. When you get up, go to work, come home, fix dinner, and take care of the kids, then watch television every day, things can get a little boring.

Then there are the married couples who come home and spend hours on their computers, fielding emails and surfing the web. If you want to improve your marriage, then you need to start making time where you can focus on each other exclusively and reconnect.

So change the routine in your relationship and ask your wife or husband out on a date. Try to come up with a surprise or a different type of date than you've enjoyed in the past. For instance, one time, I took my husband on a balloon ride.

If your spouse turns you down, try again. Use your imagination and pretend that you are chasing him or her again. Flirt a bit. Tell your wife or husband how good they look and when you do so, be specific. Don't just say, “You're beautiful.” Say, “I love the color of your eyes. They're so deep and soulful.” This will make your spouse feel like you "see" them and bring some fun back into your marriage.

If you've been in an unhappy marriage for years, you may think that you know your partner inside and out, but there are many aspects of your spouse's character or areas of interest that you are not aware of.

What happens in any marriage is that you start taking each other for granted. You stop seeing your spouse with fresh eyes, like you did when you first met. Even though you've been married to this person for many years, he or she has been changing and growing during this time and if you've been taking them for granted, you have become blind to these small changes. There are many techniques you can use to turn an unhappy marriage into one that is fresh and vital and learn to see your spouse with new eyes. These are simple techniques that take a moment to learn, but will serve you throughout your marriage.

Falling back in love and nurturing that love to keep it healthy and alive is easier than you think. It just takes learning a few simple skills … skills that no one has taken the time to teach you. But now that you are starting to understand that a few skills are what you are lacking to turn around your unhappy marriage, take action and make the time to learn and practice them.

For more about learning the skills that will improve your marriage, read The Us Factor review, my review of an excellent easy-to-follow program that is transforming the lives of couples around the world. Let's face it. There's nothing sweeter in life than a happy marriage.

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