Unhealthy Relationship

by shawn
(canada)

My boyfriend and I have been off and on for over 16 years. We have a 15 year old daughter. When I was pregnant with her, he broke up with me. At the time I was 24 he was 29.


After her birth he proposed to me, 6 weeks later he called it off. It took us 6 years to speak at that time he spent no time with his daughter (his choice not mine). I went on to marry someone else and had another child. My marriage split up, and we got back together, moved in together. We have had everything disasterous thrown at us: him losing jobs, I was diagnosed with narcolepsy. Problems with our teenage daughter extremely big.

He blames me for her problems and does not see the real picture: she has abandonment issues and she does not want us together. We have tried counseling, but he refuses to go. She is a nightmare to deal with swearing at me, saying I am not sick. She also says stuff to me that her grandmother says about me.

My boyfriend never sticks up for me. He says he does but I don't feel it. There is a video of our daughter on facebook drunk and trying to commit suicide. He ignores this behavior. We cannot afford braces for her right at the moment so his mother is going ahead and getting them for her even though she knows I told our daughter I would not pay for braces for someone who does drugs.

My daughter was almost killed a few months ago from a boy from school who tried to strangle her. I am supposed to keep my stress level down or I could have a heart attack. Please help.


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Jul 23, 2010
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Daughter Comes First
by: Anonymous

I suppose it is easier for an outsider to say than it is for you to do. Your first priority is your daughter. Try to help her in any way possible. It seems to me you should rethink your decision to be with her father. He was never there for you and seems to me he just sits back and blames you. Try counseling and try praying, but remember your children come first. Hope you find the courage to do the right thing.

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