Unsure about Long Distance Relationship


(canada)

I'm an 18-year old girl from Canada, and I'm like madly in love with a 22-year old from the United Kingdom. We met online 5 yrs ago. I was 13 he was 17.


We hit it off great. We started dating after one year of talking. I had come to visit him when I was 15 and it went well. He introduced me to his friends and took me out ... it was great.

When I turned 16, things started to slow down. The long distance was hard because we wanted to be together. We went into an open relationship and started dating others to see what would happen. It never went well for either of us, so we went back so it was just the two of us.

Now he is planning on moving down here with me. He wants to get married and start a family. He wants to be with me forever, but I'm not sure if it's gonna work out. I mean, yes, I love him, but like he's more mature than me. I'm still young. I wanna have fun and he wants to settle down.

I don't know if I'm ready for this big of a change because it's a big change for both of us. I don't know what to do! Any advice on what I should do and/or tell him?

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Oct 02, 2009
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Long Distance Relationship Worries
by: Anonymous

I've had long distance relationship worries like this and the relationship didn't work, but that's not to say that it will be the same with you. If you love him, you will tell him how you feel and if he loves you, he will respect that. Give yourself time and then when you're sure that you are ready, you can settle down and live happily ever after.

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May 09, 2009
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Open Up and Communicate
by: PENNY

You would be wise to discuss honestly with him how you are thinking and feeling before he moves there. Let him know that marriage, for you, is a serious commitment and while you have had a long distance relationship, both of you need time to know how the relationship will develop once you're together.

Yes, as you said, you love him, but you are not in love with him. He is letting you know his intentions for moving there, so why don't you just open up?

If you can't be open, doesn't that tell you something? You wrote, "You wanna have fun and not settle down," he wants marriage and the baby carriage. What he wants, you are not ready for. Be honest with him and let him know.

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