What is he thinking?

We have been dating for around 10 months and everything was great, and we did have sex. Things started getting bumpy when he felt tied up in the relationship. I have to admit we were indeed spending a lot of time together. We spend almost every day doing things together. I do understand this will make him feel like his life is taken away. So we kind of broke up. But we didn't really say it out loud, so it wasn't a clean break.

Now, 5 months have passed and we are not in contact, since we are not in the same school anymore. He tends to avoid our common friends, me and the issue.

He once told me that he still loved me, but he's afraid about the time he needs to give. I want him to know that I don't need the time and we could try things out.

But he's a guy who doesn't express himself, so no one knows what he is thinking right now. I tried talking to him and everything seems all right. I asked if I've been replaced and he say I wasn't.

I'm planning to meet him to see how things go. But before that I would really like to know what he is thinking and feeling. I'm also afraid that he might love his life too much now, but he always tells me he doesn't know what to do when I asked if he needs me to wait for him till he's ready.

So I'm planning to tell him that maybe we should try letting each other into our lives and that I don't need the time he used to give. Can this work? And what is he thinking right now, he doesn't express himself at all.

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Aug 30, 2009
Time Running Out
by: Penny

He's thinking you take up too much of his time. He doesn't have time for anything else when he's dating you.

Aug 30, 2009
Time Is On Your Side
by: AnonymouPenny

Reading what you wrote, I can only say...He felt you needed too much of his time and it left him without time for anything else. When you do meet with him tell him what you wrote, tell him you enjoyed the time that you two spent together, but you don't need to be with him as much as before.

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