When Love is Pain

by A L G
(New South Wales)

In January 2007, I started dating this guy thinking he was the best thing since sliced bread. It was a long distance relationship. It was hard but we spoke on the phone everyday.

I left my parents' house and moved in with him after only 3.5 months. While living with him and his family, I got to see the real him. He could be a real gentleman when he wanted to be, otherwise he was nasty piece of work.

We started trying for a baby in May. Then gave up considering I'm onlY 16 and so was he.

We had a lot of fights. He used to hit me. Then I got sick of it. In September, I left and tried no to run back. He wrecked my relationship with my family, telling me my dad hated me & so did my mum. But I talked to them and realized they never once hated me nor could they.

I left the suburb we lived in to move in with my aunty because I couldn't stand the memories.

It's been extremely hard. As I always think of going back to him, but then I think do I wanna go back to the bullshit he caused me. I now have a perfect man who doesn't hurt me and is a REAL gentleman. He opens the car door for me, takes me out to dinner and spoils me with roses all the time.

My advice to anyone who is in this situation I was in: get out. It will be hard, but you can do it.