why she has asked to back off
by Kenneth M
My girlfriend and i have been together for a year now. Her husband who she has been separated from for almost 2 years now still wants her back. There is nothing to fight over and now after asking me to back off she is going to do this now. Her girls don't approve of her seeing me or going to church with me because legally she isn't divorced yet. She has talked with me about our future goals and wants with each other and at times i feel she is telling me what i want to hear. I know she loves me and my son and enjoys being with us, she is being tugged by her kids and me pressuring her to get this divorce and wanting to spend more time with her. I have given it 100% and she knows she hasn't. She wants to back off and not text, talk, email till the divorce. She says that she needs god and she hopes i will not lean towards another woman for comfort, that that would devastate her. She thinks time is what we need and the divorce till we can try it again. I know i throw negative responses at her and over jealous and trust, it's because i have been hurt before by separated women and that they all went back to their exes. My worry is she says she loves us both and wants me to forgive her. i can't because of how i have fallen and worked up with dreams and aspirations. My question is how long do i wait before i see i need to move on and will she come back if i honor her wishes? I want so bad to talk to her and hold her. I know she knows i'm a great man and have done more for her than any other has. It's the divorce not happening yet and the girls and her doing what's wrong in gods eyes. I feel i am at my lowest in hurting. That i don't want to go on. Please guide me....